January 2013 Moms

GTKY Kids

How many do you have?

How many do you want?

Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?

If this is one & done for you how did you decide? 

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  • We have 2 daughters, 16 months and 7 weeks.

    We want 3 children.

    Having a newborn and a toddler has definitely caused me to reevaluate the age gap. We're probably going to wait until our oldest is getting ready for kindergarten.
  • We have 2
    I wouldn't mind a 3rd, but our family feels complete now and DH feels done so we are.
    Having my vbac is what made me opento a 3rd. Having a newborn is tough. Dd was tough and for a while it made us lean to 1 and done. But ds is an amazing sweet tempered baby :
  • Just have the one, and thats all I've ever wanted. Having such a rough time with DD only further confirms 'one and done' for me. I wouldn't take anything for her, but I do not want to do this again.
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  • just one

    originally wanted 2... but not so sure...
    i always wanted 4 yrs apart but we'll have to reevaluate....i think i'm ok with one and done
  • How many do you have?

    DS is our first 

    How many do you want?

    I think both DH and I would like to have one more. Although, the future is a bit of a question mark. Maybe we'll decide we want more, who knows. 

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?

    No. There are days (and nights) that are difficult, but it's a labor of love. We'll be willing to do it again in a few years. I'd like DS to have a sibling to play with, and some help taking care of DH and I when we're old and gray. 

    ETA: That's not to imply that for those who choose one and done it's not a labor of love. Just our bad times haven't scared us away from wanting another :)


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  • This is my first.

    As many as God gives us.

    Having a newborn hasn't changed my thinking on family size, but having infertility has. I always thought I'd have 2 kids by 35 and be done. I'll be 35 next month and still have 4 snow babies to hopefully bring home. So I may only have one child to raise on this earth or I may be a mom of many. Only time will tell. Insert mobile smiley.
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  • This is my second child. My oldest is in kindergarten.

    I thought I'd end up with three kids but I think I'm done. I changed my mind about seven months into the pregnancy.
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  • How many do you have? 1 son

    How many do you want? We're on the fence, but I think 2 kids

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? Nope! If anything, I'm more excited than I was initially about having a second. My son is so precious and I'd love to have another and give him a sibling.

    If this is one & done for you how did you decide? I think that the only reason we'd consider not having a second is if the stress of IF is too much or precludes us from having a second.

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  • How many do you have?  This is our first.

    How many do you want?  DH has always said he only wanted one...I've been more open about it, though I'm a bit older (36) so that is a factor.

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?  Newborn didn't alter my thoughts, but pregnancy did.  I had such an easy, perfect pregnancy that I was all ready to talk DH into number two.  Then I was diagnosed with GD at 30 weeks and while it wasn't that bad, the stress of potentially doing harm to my unborn baby with every bite I ate was really stressful - for those 2 months, I was on board with one and done.  Now, in retrospect -- with a wonderfully healthy, beautiful daughter -- it doesn't seem as big a deal to go through again.

    If this is one & done for you how did you decide? Age is the biggest factor. DH is only 30, but his parents both passed away in their 50s in the last 3 years. My parents were older when they had me, my dad was over 80 when he passed 2 years ago and my mom is a really active and healthy 73 year old.  Sooo, even though I'm older, DH is more concerned about being too old to parent.

    Bottom line, I told him BC is his responsibility, so he can wear condoms or get snipped if he really doesn't want any more.  Or we can chance another (not NOW, but eventually) with NFP since I'm open to it. 

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  • How many do you have?

    So far, just Eilley.

    How many do you want?

    An even number, so 2 or 4.

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?

    Reality sets in, and I think we will just go for two. IF treatments were really hard and I don't know if I could do that 3 more times. It's not about the newborn period; I am loving this time even though its very stressful.


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    This is our first. Prior to getting pregnant I wanted 2 or 3, but pregnancy was extremely hard on me and my labor was difficult with residual effects on my body so I would love to be done. I think my husband wants more. I am hoping he will decide it's not worth the risks. I would also say that I have a relatively good easy baby, and I doubt I'd get that lucky again.
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  • How many do you have?

    DD is our first 

    How many do you want?

    I always thought I wanted 2, and I still am having mixed feelings. One day I can't imagine not having  1 more and the next I think I'm good with being one & done. DH definitely says he wants to be done. 

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?

    I'm more open to only having 1, she's not really all that difficult & my pregnancy wasn't hard but I like the idea of not doing this again... sometimes!

    If this is one & done for you how did you decide? 

    The biggest thing is how much we travel. On one hand it's so much easier to get around with one kid but then she'll never have any one constant kid playmate in her life and that picture sort of makes me sad.


  • I have 2 sons 16 months and 7 weeks.

    Not sure how many kids we want.  We are done getting pregnant but we want to adopt.  We have said we want  to adopt the kids considered "unadoptable" because of age or family size.  DH and I both agree we would never split up siblings.

    If my difficult DS1 didn't change my mind, I don't think anything can. 

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  • How many do you have? 2, a 2yr old boy and this little girl

    How many do you want? 2, so this is our last baby

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? No. We always said 2 kids around 2 years apart, so we're done. Having a baby and a toddler is no piece of cake, but I'm convinced that 2 years is a great age gap for sibilings so we just suck it up and go with the flow

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    This is my first.

    As many as God gives us.

    Having a newborn hasn't changed my thinking on family size, but having infertility has. I always thought I'd have 2 kids by 35 and be done. I'll be 35 next month and still have 4 snow babies to hopefully bring home. So I may only have one child to raise on this earth or I may be a mom of many. Only time will tell. Insert mobile smiley.

    This exactly! I have 6 snowbabies waiting for us but what this experience has taught me is that I don't want to jump into trying for 2 right away like I thought. Having a NB is hard but so rewarding, I want to cherish her for at least a year and a half before trying again. We would like 2 or 3 kids.
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    FET in April 2012 - BFP at 6dp5dt! Beta #1 at 9dp5dt: 82.5, Beta #2 at 12dp5dt: 352 Beta #3 at 19dp5dt: 6000, saw heartbeat and one little bean at 5W6D!
    After nearly 3 years of waiting our LO was born December 18th 2012!
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  • We have 3 children (newb, 5yo, 9yo) All boys

    I've always wanted a big family. 5 or 6 kids

    YES, definitely

     

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    How many do you have?

    1 DS here in my arms and an angel son in heaven.

    How many do you want?

    As many as I am blessed with. I am hoping for a minimum of 3 and a maximum of who knows?

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?

    NOPE!!!

    If this is one amp; done for you how did you decide?

    definately not!!!!nbsp;

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  • How many do you have? 1.

    How many do you want? 2-3

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?  Nope but IF did. We may be one and done if we have trouble again.


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  • How many do you have? 2 boys. 2 1/2 and 5 weeks.

    How many do you want? We are undecided about if we want a 3rd. 3 would be the most.

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? The newborn has sorta made me not want another just because waking every 2 hours at night is not fun. We will wait till the baby is about a year before making any decisions. To have a third we need both a bigger car and house. We wouldn't want them too far apart. 2 years is our preference.


  • 2 boys SS is 8. DS is 7 weeks.

    Possibly one more max

    It's more of a money thing, when we feel we can afford it we will probably get the iud out. I'm ok with what we have though.
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  • DD is our first.

    We want 4.

    I am loving the newborn stage so much that I'm already thinking of another baby to keep the snuggles coming.
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  • How many do you have? One

    How many do you want? Possibly two

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? Yes. Before I thought at least two, probably three. The first couple of weeks I was convinced we would be one and done; now I think I'll be open to another but not for a few years.

    If this is one amp; done for you how did you decide? As PP said ease of travel with one, and being more secure financially with just one.
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  • How many do you have?  this is our first

    How many do you want? we wanted two

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? possibly, right now we say we are one and done...but that could change in the next year or so

    If this is one & done for you how did you decide? DH and I are both 33, so if we want number two we will do it rather soon. Right now when we talk about it we are done and are content to enjoy our little man the rest of our lives. I always imagined having two, so they would have a sibling but if we just have one I'm not too worried as all of our friends have LO's around his age or slightly older so it's not like he won't have social interaction, plus he goes to daycare every weekday. 


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  • How many do you have? One and a stepson

    How many do you want? I wanted 8 but age and financial issues has changed it to 3 or 4 biological children

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? No, if anything I'm more excited to start again, but going to wait a year.

    If this is one and done for you how did you decide? not done :)
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  • Just DD

    We want 2

    No we have not changed our minds on how many we want. We talk regularly about when to try for #2. Right now we may start TTC in late fall of this year. It will depend as I need to make sure I can work enough hours to get a year Mat Leave. DH is 36 and I am 30 so I don't want to wait too long.

    BFP #1 05/03/12 DD: 12/18/12
    BFP #2 05/26/14 MMC: 6/26/14 D&C: 7/18/14
    BFP #3 10/09/14 MC 10/24/14


  • How many do you have? Just Emme for now

    How many do you want? 2 has always been our thought

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?
    Nope, although I think DH wants to move up our timeline for a second to get the newborn phases overwith. He would also like the siblings to be close in age. I'm cool with that, but when he starts into the "let's start trying in October" chat I sort of dance away with the baby, hahaha


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  • How many do you have? This is our first.

    How many do you want? 2 or 3. If our next is a boy we'd probably try for a girl way down the road. We are pretty young [I'm 23 and SO is 26] so who knows. My mom had her kids in her 30s so I'm open to having a third in ten years. Mostly depends on financial situation.

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have? No, but initially the recovery from a c section was enough to scare me away from another. 6 weeks out, in feeling better and would have another knowing a section was a possibility.

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  • How many do you have?  2

    How many do you want?  We're open to at least 1 more, but we've always had a rule to take it one kid at a time and then go from there.  We don't have a set number in our minds.  We knew we definitely wanted at least one when we started, likely 2.

    Has having a newborn changed the number of kids you want to have?  No, because we've always taken it one baby at a time.  Now having an older toddler has made me seriously consider whether we wanted to go through all that again!  Oy!  I already talked to DD to see if she's going to eventually turn into a toddler and she has assured me she'll stay a baby forever Wink



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  • We have one.

    We had always said 2, possibly 3 depending on if we have 2 of the same sex.

    DH is struggling a lot with the NB stage. I am doing ok but it is hard on me too. I've been really worried, almost to the point of anxiety sometimes. DH is starting to lean towards one and done. I want to reevaluate later when our emotions aren't clouded. Our kids would be spaced 4-5 years apart if we do have another. 

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  • We have two boys, one is 2 years and the other is 4 weeks.

    I've always wanted 4, but DH had only wanted 2.  He is now totally on board for a 3rd and we'll see where things go from there!

    Nope!  Having a newborn hasn't changed our minds at all!

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