So I got a text from my mom. My sister in law & aunt want to have a shower for me, which really surprised me (SIL can be...moody/stand-offish, so it really shocked me actually) and I'm very thankful...but they're already planning it. I haven't even done my a/s yet--I feel like this is way too early, but maybe it's just because I'm a bundle of nerves waiting for the "big appointment". Does it seem early considering I'm not due until the end of July? I don't know how these things work really. Right now they're planning for April 28th. For some reason all the sudden I'm like, "Whoa. this is moving fast"
The other thing my mom texted me is that I need to invite my friends and my MIL. I said no to MIL--DH and I have been having issues with her for years (she lives in town, and I haven't seen her in two years. To say we're not close is an understatement). I also am saying no to friends. It feels too gift-grabby for me to invite them when my family is so huge and overbearing. I feel like it would just be awkward for them to sit with my family of 15+ women and have like 3 or 4 of them. Or is this what people do? Should I just invite them anyway? I'm the first of my friends to be pregnant (yes, at 31, I'm only acquaintances with people with kids) so I don't have baby shower experience. I had my bridal shower back when I was 23 in my first marriage and I felt so awkward throughout the whole thing with all of that attention focused on me. Eek!
Thoughts/guidance on this? Again, I'm grateful they want to do something for me and the baby, but I'm all the sudden so nervous about it.