I'm looking for some advice. I knew my mother was planning on throwing me a shower over the weekend. What I didn't realize was that my SIL co-hosted it, and is also expecting a few weeks after our LO is set to arrive. I was told at my appointment today that it could happen any day now, or it could be a couple of weeks. I know my MIL is planning on hosting a shower for my SIL in the next month or so, and I don't know if I should offer to host it with her. I really would like to, but I'm a FTM and I have absolutely no idea how the final days of my pregnancy will be, nor do I know what to expect in the first few weeks that LO is here. I feel rude not offering to host, especially since I think my MIL has been hinting at it, but I also don't want to agree to host it and not be able to contribute as much effort as I should and be an 'absentee hostess'. We have also had to be extra cautious of our finances lately and whether or not my MIL is aware of it, we don't exactly have the extra income to contribute to the size of her shower or the fancy venue (80 guests at a country club). I don't want to seem ungrateful for the shower that was thrown for me, but the timing of this shower has me very concerned...I just really don't want to sound rude if I don't offer to host with my MIL. Is it okay to offer as much help as I can give but not technically host? My own shower was actually the first I've ever been to, so I am admittedly very clueless in this department.