Im in the midst of planning my baby shower with my mom-godmother-good friend-and mother in law. What should be such an exciting and fun time is starting out not so good :-( I must rewind for a moment so you can understand where I come from....
My bridal shower was to be planned/organized and thrown by my ENTIRE bridal party including my mother. I had ZERO control or involvement in it. However..(to spare you the dramatic story..lol), the jist is that my shower was great.. but my matron of honor had a chip on her shoulder and chose to EXCLUDE not only my bridal party from the planning but my own mother etc! Alot had to do with $$.. sad to say..It caused a huge problem between her and my bridal party (which also consisted of several mbrs of my husbands family-awkward!). The whole darn thing became about HER. Needless to say there were many other moments like this throughout my wedding planning process and even throughout my own wedding & we are not on speaking terms at this moment. She had hurt me too much to say the least. But.. being that as it may, I don't think anyone could blame me when I think about planning my own baby shower! LOL It's hard for me to give up that control again to anyone with regards to this for fear of a repeat diaster. I don't want any more problems.
That all being said...here we are about to plan the baby shower and I can't help but want to PLEASE all involved for fear of repeated problems. So, here I sit now trying to choose a place for the baby shower (as stupid as this sounds) & I am crying. Thank you pregnancy hormones!! :-P...My rock & hard place is silly to most.. but is hard no less. Do I please my family?? Who would prefer to have it at the local firehouse hall b/c of the lowered cost..personal nature.. but the cooking/setup/work would have to be done by my mom etc... OR Do I please my in-laws?? Who would prefer to have it at a nice restaurant with a private room..where all is done for you by staff but costs an arm and a leg??
Again, this dilemma may sound silly to you all.. but for me it is difficult given the history of ridiculousness that occurred one year ago with the planning of my bridal shower...Most have told me "Do what YOU want and not what THEY want".. but that is just as dificult. My mother prefers to pay for the shower but my parents are on limited funds these days.. another reason for the local hall.. my in-laws don't beleive that it is their responsibility to provide funds for the shower b/c the believe that should be my mothers responsibility.. yet they are willing to help with anything else that is needed (i.e. make cookies etc.). My husband and I talked about paying for it ourselves with some savings from the wedding.. But I have been diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum since month #1 of the pregnancy and I'm still sick,.so I had to quit my job.. we are currently on one income..ugh. And here's the dilemma arising again...Do we go with my mom's suggestion to save cost, but run the risk of displeasing my in laws?? Or do we go with in laws suggestion, but run the risk of feeling guilty for using our savings on that venue?
UGH... I am apologizing profusely through the computer for unloading all of these thoughts.. but I'm just.. well.. STUCK. Thoughts???
Thanks girls.. :-)