Hello fellow Mommies! Please excuse me while I rant.
So yesterday we had out 3/4D sono done. It was amazing to say the least. Took both BIG SISTERS to watch their little brother at 31 weeks. Now we get home at 5:30, I upload all pics to computer and proceed to select the good ones to send to my in laws. I didn't want to send all 55 pics as some were very obstructed. (Little one was cuddled into placenta) At 5:45 while I am doing this, DH's aunt stopped by (short back story, his parents didn't talk to this lady for 27 years, now they re connected because aunt is MILS twin sister...wierd I know) but now it seems they are shoving this woman down my throat. She stops by all the time and is just a whack. Always has some nasty remark or sideways glare to give me, and I don't even know her...Here's were my rant begins...So DH tells his Evil Aunt that we just got back from seeing SILAS (name we chose) and she gasps...and actually says "Eww", her next words were "Oh boy I can't wait til you tell your mother THAT name that you chose...Good Luck". I stayed in office with my back to this woman as I wanted to punch her lights out. (Holy HORMONES) No sooner does she leave we get a call about 8 minutes later from the in laws that they are the last to know everything and blah blah blah. I sent them the pics first, even before I posted on social media...and DH says I am being hormonal..I said flat out."YOUR AUNT IS AN *&^*^*^, pardon my french" but am I wrong. Why does everyone have to state their opinion. We like the name, WE are having this baby boy, and WE chose it! I am sorry for the manic typing. I am sooo upset and just am wondering if I am crazy?
Re: Opinions are like....what to do?(vent)
You're not crazy and you're entitled to feel however you want. I will tell you though- it will save you a world of pissiness if you just label this woman "bat sh#t crazy" and dismiss anything she has to say. There are some people that don't deserve any energy and she sounds like one of them. Focus on the people that matter.
As far as the IL's they should know better re: the aunt and I would say as much in a nice way. I would also not share any more info at ALL with the crazy aunt, therefore she'll have no ammo with which to make trouble.
GL!
Just stop telling them things.
As the saying goes, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.
It's not as if their opinions, whether expressed or not, actually have any power to change your mind.
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This. My family is super opinionated and my FIL basically told us that every name on our list was "stupid" so as a result we have decided not to tell any of them the names that we have chosen.
This. For sure.
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When I came home I told DH how I felt and he said that by me being upset that "THEY WIN" and I am like can;t you just agree that your mom & her sister are evil and plotting> and he said yes, they are but don't let them get to you. Big help DH, BIG HELP. Thanks again ladies. I'll go pout in my ice cream later.
And this is why we aren't sharing our name with anybody, short of strangers on the street.
However, if shes' that awful who cares what she thinks.
That's why DH and I don't share names until after birth. People are rude and feel entitled to give their opinion before the baby is born but shut their mouths once the baby has arrived and it's a done deal (like they should!).
I don't think you're being crazy at all.
1. Don't deal with crazy aunt. If your H would like to and have a relationship with said crazo, I don't see where you have to be a part of that.
2. People feel the need to tell you their opinion about everything regarding your child. You are going to have to come up with a tactful (if that's how you are, I personally am not) way to let people know that your business is not their business.
3. Screw crazy aunt because I love the name Silas.