October 2013 Moms

Told our families

After DH spilled the beans at his Dad Night Out we knew we needed to tell our families that LO3 is on the way.

It went okay. MIL kept reminding me how "huge" I get. She must have said it 7 times. She also is concerned about SIL wedding and is not sure they make maternity dresses nice enough for the wedding.

My mother told me I will be able to "muddle through it" and she won't be able to "support me" like she did with my other two because we are moving.

On a scale of 1 to 10 it was a 6. Not terrible but I definitely don't want to talk about it anymore with them.

At least our friends have all been super supportive.
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Charlotte 12.3.09
Madeline 6.24.11
Eleanor 9.30.13

Re: Told our families

  • Ugh, I'm sorry. I know how disappointing that is. They'll be better when LO is born.

    And there are plenty of nice maternity dresses.

    I'm dreading telling people at this point too. I kind of think it would be just fine for almost everyone to find out when I just show up places with a second kid.

         
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  • Hi that sucks,

     

    Sorry it didn't go so well, My DH & had planned to only tell our family and wait a few weeks and tell our friends but DH was way to excited an now the whole church community knows (LOL) but there where tons of loving well wishers.

    I'm sure your family will come around once you start showing and the shock wears off 

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  • Thank goodness you have good friends! I would be hurt if my family acted that way about number 3 too. 
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  • Wow, I think I would be a little upset. I'm glad you have great friends to surround you with support though. Gosh, this makes me nervous to tell my family. I have no idea what they will think! :(
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  • MIL sounds like a peach! We haven't told any IL's yet and I plan to keep it a secret as long as I can. Their reactions will be a lot like your MIL's. Thank goodness for great friends! And us! Winky face.


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  • Wow, I think I this would be a little disappointing for me.  Especially the comment about SILs wedding and you needing to find a nice maternity dress.  I get that a wedding is an important family event, but you are bringing a person into the world!  Have some perspective, Lady!  There are absolutely nice maternity dresses out there!!  I'm not sure if you are in the wedding party or not, but as a guest I love to see a pregnant bridesmaid up there!  Totally makes me smile.  :) 

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  • Definitely a little hurt but I am hoping things will get better with time.

    It was surprise for us, so I am sure they were surprised too. But the first time we were pregnant we got jumping up and down, the second time we got big hugs, this time I wished I could have had a drink first.
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  • image yesthisiskim0401:
    MIL sounds like a peach! We haven't told any IL's yet and I plan to keep it a secret as long as I can. Their reactions will be a lot like your MIL's. Thank goodness for great friends! And us! Winky face.

    this. 

  • image kaswanson:
    Wow, I think I this would be a little disappointing for me.nbsp; Especially the comment about SILs wedding and you needing to find a nice maternity dress.nbsp; I get that a wedding is an important family event, but you are bringing a person into the world!nbsp; Have some perspective, Lady!nbsp; There are absolutely nice maternity dresses out there!!nbsp; I'm not sure if you are in the wedding party or not, but as a guest I love to see a pregnant bridesmaid up there!nbsp; Totally makes me smile.nbsp; :nbsp; So thankful for great friends!


    I am the only bridesmaid. DH and I are standing up on SIL side.
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    Charlotte 12.3.09
    Madeline 6.24.11
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  • Wow, your MIL sounds like a piece of work. Maternity bridesmaid dress is among the first things to come to mind when you announce a new baby? That's special. 

    Good thing you've had a better reaction from your friends!

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  • Sorry, but I think ''shove it'' would of came out of my mouth if my MIL would of said that to me. So rude.
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  • Sometimes I read these things and think, "man I am a huge b!tch" because I would have answered and repeated over and over again "I think the word you are looking for is 'congratulations'"

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  • I was afraid to tell the family this time because this first time I left crying. It was a huge surprise to us we had just gotten married my husband lost his job and bam I found out I was pregnant. The only things his parents could say was to my husband you better find a job and quick. Well this time it went so much better. My family is supportive as always of me. But I totally understand the disappointment after telling people and not getting a happy response.
  • Oh that's awful! I totally feel your pain regarding MIL- mine likes to remind me of just how "huge" I got with DS as well! Thank goodness you have wonderful friends and a great support group here :) 
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  • That's disappointing. I'm sorry.
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  • image Suesteffel:
    I was afraid to tell the family this time because this first time I left crying. It was a huge surprise to us we had just gotten married my husband lost his job and bam I found out I was pregnant. The only things his parents could say was to my husband you better find a job and quick. Well this time it went so much better. My family is supportive as always of me. But I totally understand the disappointment after telling people and not getting a happy response.

    We also had a surprise baby right after getting married and MIL had the audacity to ask DH if it was possible that I tricked him into getting KU....gotta love family! Glad things are going better this time around for you! 

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  • Yes my MIL can be a peach. If you guys are ever bored just page me and I will tell you an entertaining story about her. I have got ten years of stories built up.

    On a happy note I told my SIL and she is super excited for us. She and her fianc are awesome with our girls.
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  • Sorry neither family was super happy/supportive. Hopefully things will change as the news sinks in.
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