I'm new to the board, but I need some serious advice! Also this is probably going to be really long...sorry! My daughter will be a month old tomorrow, and from day one DH's mom has been nothing but a pain. To start with, she does not acknowledge that DD is mine, not just her son's. She printed out pics she took at the hospital and had ONE of me and dd. All the others were of her and dd or DH and dd. She also keeps saying how much dd looks like DH. When I told DH how it hurt my feeling, he made it a point to say to her how DD has my lips, ears, etc. To which my MIL replied, "no she does not!" That seriously hurt my feelings!
She's also been on me about giving dd a pacifier. DH and I have decided not to give her one yet to see how she does without one. So far, she's been perfectly fine! But any time dd cries when MIL is around she says, "see, she just needs a paci." Most of the time she's crying because she's hungry or needs to be changed! You don't just shove a pacifier in their mouths as soon as they start crying! I told DH that she was getting on my nerves by constantly saying that and he said the next time she did, he would tell her to respect our wishes. Well, she's said it every time we've seen her since then he has yet to say anything!
There are other small hurtful/annoying things she says and does like how she doesn't like that I bf, or how she acts like DH takes care of dd all the time..., but these are the two biggest. I just don't know how to handle it without starting a huge fight.