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Odd Thoughts about TTC

So we probably starting to TTC early summer of this year. I know that I want a third child but for some reason I am finding myself thinking a lot about labor and delivery. Both births have been mostly uncomplicated, quick, pain-med free (DD1 was induced, though). 

You know how they say you forget childbirth so you'll do it again? I haven't forgotten. DD2's birth was awesome, it really was. But I still remember being on the bed on all fours going through transition. I don't know if I want to do that again!

So, anyone been through this? How did you deal?  


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E 9.08, V 8.11, J 4.14

Re: Odd Thoughts about TTC

  • So I only have DS and though our TTC plans won't finalize til later next year-ish, I wanted to offer support. I do know what you mean. When I was done giving birth, I forgot part of it; even just five months later looking back, I feel hazy about a lot of parts. But I distinctly remember transition and feeling as though my hips, back, and thighs were about to splinter from pressure and pain. And it's a bit scary!

    But at the same time, it seems like it's easy enough to remind myself that I did survive and I have my wonderfulL DS to show for it. And I think that I can deal with that sort of pain again, because it will only last for a short time compared to how long I will have the joy of being around my DS.

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    So I only have DS and though our TTC plans won't finalize til later next year-ish, I wanted to offer support. I do know what you mean. When I was done giving birth, I forgot part of it; even just five months later looking back, I feel hazy about a lot of parts. But I distinctly remember transition and feeling as though my hips, back, and thighs were about to splinter from pressure and pain. And it's a bit scary!

    But at the same time, it seems like it's easy enough to remind myself that I did survive and I have my wonderfulL DS to show for it. And I think that I can deal with that sort of pain again, because it will only last for a short time compared to how long I will have the joy of being around my DS.

    This is true. I survived and could do it again - and compared to DD1's birth, #2's was awesome. I've also  heard the third birth can be way different or way longer - not looking forward to that if it's true.

     Love the name Silas! 


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  • Try to remind yourself that it gets easier/quicker with each birth. It's been the case with me, for sure. My third was born in just 4 hours from the start of the induction!
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  • Even if it took 48 hours, I feel like its worth it... Pregnant for 9 months... 48 hours of labor and then BABY! Seems like a fair trade ;) 

    Then again,... I think I did forget childbirth, haha! 
  • I hear you!! I have been having some issues because I have not really "forgotten" everything with DS2's med-free birth. 

    I get some anxiety thinking about some of the contractions I had, particularly in my drive way and feeling like I could climb the walls at certain points.

    I just keep talking to DH about it, because he was there too and he keeps pointing out all the good things about how we worked together, got through it, etc..

    I also just keep thinking about pushing and how good it felt to be doing something and back in control.

    I know it's tough!! We actually have some birth support this time so I'm hoping the extra distractions will help.  I just have to remember, it hurt but I lived and I'll do it again.

    Good luck to you!! 



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  • I remember parts of my labor really well. To be honest, what probably was the worst part was the few stitches afterwards. I think the transition period wasn't so bad because I had an amazing doula who applied a lot of pressure on my lower back with a hot rice bag :)
  • I know what you mean. My labor was great and I was really only in serious pain at like 8 cm. The pain of contractions actually doesn't scare me about doing it again..it's the feeling of being completely out of control when I got to 9 and 10 cm. I'm getting a little better as far as forgetting things but if I really reflect on everything I can remember the intense pressure I felt during crowning and the fear I felt and I am scared to do it again. What scares me most is that when I went into it with DS2 I was really confident and excited about the experience and I feel like that helped me relax. I'm scared that next time I will remember how bad it sucked at the end and that will make me tense up and cause issues because I won't want to get past 7 cm and get down to the hard part! I guess the one good thing I can say is that I pushed for less than 5 minutes so the really hard part only lasted for 10-15 minutes..and DS is so worth it! :)

    Edit: Just wanted to add that I loved this post. It is good to know that there are others out there with the same thoughts and feelings!

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  • Thanks for the support ladies! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I know I can do it, last time it was only 4.5 hours from start to finish, spontaneous. And since I really want a third, I guess I will do it! DH was pretty good as was my midwife. I ended up in the hospital due to meconium in the water, I'm really hoping the third time's a charm and I can stay at the birth center. I think that will make a big difference.

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