usually I see/hear natural birthing women complaining that people aren't being supportive of their birth plan. Well, turns out it goes both ways! I have a bunch of med-fee, home birthing women (who love me and have my best intentions at heart, I know) really trying to shove their methods down my throat!
I tried really hard to make sure I was supportive and encouraging when they were discussing their birth plans. I knew it wasn't my decision, and they were making the choices that made them most comfortable. Why can't they understand that I am doing the same by NOT setting my sights on a med-free natural birth?
They weren't in the room when I was having IF treatments where many doctors commented on my abnormally small, tight cervix. They weren't there when the radiologist COULDN'T thread the catheter for my HSG and instead had to lay across the Xray table with her hand up my hooha to perform the test, or when the RE had a moment of doubt that she would even be able to perform the IUI. They weren't there when I made the decision to accept that my children might not be conceived "naturally," let alone BIRTHED that way. I have had to adjust and let go of so many plans/dreams when it comes to my child - I have decided that it's in my best interest to not have my heart set on any method of birthing. If I get to deliver vaginally, great. If I have to get a CS, well then that's what happens. If I want an epidural, I WILL NOT be made to feel guilty about it. If I am lucky enough to produce enough milk for my child, fabulous. I'll put it to use. If not, well then my kid will still be healthy, happy and plump. I have enough cervical and psychological issues to justify ANY decision I make, even if I don't feel the need to share them with everyone who asks.
I so wish that EVERYONE would accept that these are personal decisions, and if we want your advise/wisdom, we will let you know.
Thanks for listening.
I had unexplained IF (17 BFNs and a failed IUI), a break cycle BFP, low progesterone, a fabulous second trimester, a gender reveal party (gasp!), insulin dependent GD, low amniotic fluid, IUGR, a 34w5d CS, a 13 day NICU stay, and a happily ever after with our beautiful baby boy!
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