I'm Tiffany, a married stay at home mother of a 3 1/2 year old boy and an almost 2 year old girl.
I am at the point of being beyond frustration with this potty training business. I feel like one of us may not make it out alive.
We started doing things with my son on the potty after he turned 2. Not really forcing it, just letting him sit on the potty. Occasionally he would pee, after a little fight of getting him to sit on the potty.
After a few weeks we backed off a little. He had a severe speech delay, and the doctor agreed that since he didn't have the language to express needing to pee or poop ahead of time (and made no signs or gestures about it either), that it would be fine to hold off on potty training for him.
So we started up trying much harder after his 3rd birthday in July 2012.
Sometimes he would go into the potty willingly, other times it was a little bit of a fight. Sometimes he would pee, and sometimes not. But when he DID pee, he was ecstatic and SO proud of himself!! He started pre-school in the fall and was getting assistance from a speech therapist, and he has comes leaps and bounds as far as expressing himself and talking, but still won't let us know before he has to pee.
The other day, out of frustration, I tried the whole going cold turkey thing.
I said when he gets home from preschool, we're going into underwear, no plastic pants over them. (This has always been a fear/problem of mine, I am very ocd and a germaphobe, and hate the thought of him possibly peeing all over the floor or furniture when it soaks through his pants).
The first day was an all out battle. He has 2 kinds of underpants he chose himself (angry birds and toy story) but refused to put them on. He threw a screaming tantrum and I put him in a timeout. He ended up telling me he would rather sit in a timeout than put his underwear on. He sat in timeout for almost 20 minutes before agreeing to try to pee and put his underwear on.
We did this for 3 days. Not once did he express that he had to pee BEFORE it happened. (Needless to say I had a lot of laundry this week). And several times he fought with me and told me he would just rather wear diapers.
WHAT DO I DO??!?!?!?!
My son will pee when he's on the potty, but has openly and repeatedly told me he would rather wear diapers :-(
I'm at a loss.
He is now 3 1/2 years old, and I'm starting to worry that people are just going to think I'm lazy, or not doing my job, when I end up with a 4 year old still in diapers. We can't even get the peeing down, and I feel like pooping in the potty is never going to happen.