I was asked for the guest list for my shower, and I came up with it - but need some advice on one person. Bear with me as I try to make this story as sweet and simple and possible.
I had this friend in High School. We weren't super close, but we would hang out and what not. We kept in touch after. Fast forward to seven years later in January 2013. She just had a baby a few weeks ago. I was invited to her shower (which I couldn't make because I couldn't afford the travel for that weekend, it's 12+ hours away) - but I hadn't had a "real" conversation with her in probably 2 years, and I hadn't seen her in about three years since she got married (which I didn't go to either). I sent her a shower gift and then another gift when her daughter was born. She never said thank you for either of them. I feel like I give her the benefit of the doubt being she was pregnant and then was busy with her newborn, but when I see her thank all sorts of people on Facebook (I know... Facebook) and then not thank me, it peeves me a bit. I even sent her a text saying keep your eye peeled for something in the mail for your sweet little one, and got no response.
So if you read all that, my question is - since she technically invited me to her shower, does that mean she has to be invited to mine? I'm saying no, but my best friend says yes (and even had the nerve to say that I'd probably get a gift out of it). I don't care about the gift to be honest, and I don't want to invite her because I feel she's ignored my generous offers to her family. Plus, she lives about 20 hours away from my shower location and I just know, she'll say no.
What would YOU do in a situation like this? Should I continue to be nice and invite her after being shunned from her several times - or should I just exile her from the guest list?