Not sure how many of you have been on either side of this situation (and maybe I should ask on the Loss board), but thought I'd ask in case anyone can offer any advice.
My neighbor at work was 21 weeks pregnant and Thursday went into labor that could not be stopped. Last I heard, she gave birth to her baby girl, but I did not hear what the baby's condition was. I did some research and the chances are not great that she did or will survive. I'm praying quite a bit for the both of them at this time regardless.
What I need advice on is this: when she returns to work, what would be the best thing to do or say? I know I should probably avoid baby/pregnancy talk for awhile, but otherwise, what are some things that would be helpful or at least not hamrful? I was thinking something along the lines of a nice card that says she's in my thoughts and I'm there if she wants to talk (and obviously, just shut up and listen if/when she does want to talk) and then just leave it at that. Does that seem like enough? I know sometimes when you experience a great trauma, the worst thing is for people to constantly be pressing you about it, but I also want her to know that she's in my thoughts.