August 2013 Moms

To Team Green, or NOT to team green?

With DD, I really wanted to be team green, but our circumstances made it a bit harder, and DH REALLY wanted to find out.  Also, and this is a bit selfish, we figured more people would buy us things if they new what gender it would be...judge away( we aren't gift grabby, just money poor from working on a voluteer basis in a poverty stricken region of the Dominincan Republic for two years now, so sort of desperate!)....Anyway, now with this pregnancy, I thought I wanted to be surprised, argued my case with DH and he said ok even though he would prefer to find out. But I don't know, now I sort of think, what's the point?  A ton of suspense, not as many options in gender neutral baby things...? 

Any body else on the fence?  Or if you are team green, what are your reasons?  I feel like I had good reasons last time for not wanting to find out, I just can't remember them anymore!   

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  • even before getting pg, I said I would want to find out. My family is all about planning and everything, DH's family is all about surprises. Now I'm sorta leaning toward team green. Someone I know on another board mentioned it was extra motivation to push to find out the sex of the baby, and that made sense to me. 
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  • We are not finding out as of now. My H really doesn't want to and I really have no opinion either way, so I am going with what he wants. I guess my thoughts on not finding out are kinda the opposite. I think people purchase alll kinds of crazy things once they know the sex (although obviously I would appreciate every gift) I guess I would rather get things I really need.  Also I can't be trusted to pick out gender neutral things if I knew the sex, so not knowing is better. I will be able to use the stuff for future babies.
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  • We are team green. Yes sometimes I think it would be easier if I found out so I could plan better but you know all those cute little outfits will still be around when baby gets here and I can stick with gender neutral til then. Baby doesn't care if her stroller is pink or brown and same with everything else. I just want the excitement of being able to hear the doctor say what it is when she pops out. I found out with my other 2 and I don't know I guess I just want the surprise this time. Truth is, I don't care what color the baby's outfit is because he/she will be just as cute to me.

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  • I am a big planner so def NOT Team Green person. I dont get the whole team green thing anyway.....if you find out at 18wks prego or at birth either way its a surprise right? whatever to each his own I guess.

  • I'm going to find out as soon as I can. This is my first pregnancy (after a loooong time ttc) and I'm just so excited about everything I just can't wait to find out.
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  • If we have a girl this time and decide to have more later, I think I will want to be team green. I kind of want to be this time, but we are on a tight budget while DH is in vet school so we need to be able to buy things here and there instead of only after baby is born. I'm sure we could manage, I just think it would be easier to know this time around.
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  • I'm totally type A and a planner, so there's no way I could handle being team green lol! The second we find out the gender, I will be buying furniture and painting...like that day ;-)
  • We don't want to find out. I can't get on board with the whole "planning" schtick. And we're actually not going to buy things before the babe arrives, anyway, so it extra doesn't matter to us. We're trying to avoid the focusing on things, and keep the focus on what's going on and our family.

    I am SO EXCITED about finding out right in the moment. I don't know why, but just thinking about it gets me all fluttery. And my H is so excited about not knowing, so that obviously helps.
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  • We were team green with our first 2. I liked the mystery I guess, I can't really remember why. I never really got twitchy about not knowing.

    This time around I think we'll find out, since our kids are 6 and 4.5, they'll be involved more and interested, so we thought it'd be fun for them to know. I'm sure my DD will want a sister and my DS a brother, so hope finding out early might give them a chance to get used to whether its a girl or boy. Is anyone in this same boat with older siblings having an opinion and possibly disappointment?
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    I am a big planner so def NOT Team Green person. I dont get the whole team green thing anyway.....if you find out at 18wks prego or at birth either way its a surprise right? whatever to each his own I guess.


    Exactly how I feel... Except people are so damn impatient and can't wait until 40 weeks. To each their own indeed.
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    If we have a girl this time and decide to have more later, I think I will want to be team green. I kind of want to be this time, but we are on a tight budget while DH is in vet school so we need to be able to buy things here and there instead of only after baby is born. I'm sure we could manage, I just think it would be easier to know this time around.


    Is there a boy or girl exclusive store you must shop at? That must be rough.
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  • We are definitely team green. I understand other people wanting to "plan", and normally, I am a MAJOR "planner"; but I want some surprise. Other than that, my reasons are:

    1) I hate the color pink. I know that if it's a girl, it is inevitable that she will eventually wear pink, but I enjoy the thought of having other color options. I went to my husband's cousin baby shower last month, she is having twin girls. I swear, I was the only person who bought anything other than pink! YUCK! The room looked like it had been doused in pepto-bismol. No thank you.

    2) When people don't know the gender, they are more likely to purchase items you actually need from your registry, rather than buy all kinds of "cutesy" gender specific clothing that you don't really need.

    3) If we have more than one child, it will be much easier to re-use gender neutral clothing and supplies. Why buy stuff all over again in a different color?

    Just my thoughts.

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  • I think either way you go will be special. I'm not team green - not even for planning reasons but basically because I'm already tired of calling our baby "it" - I want to be able to say he/she and picture my little one more clearly.

    Plus I figure it adds another special day for DH and I. I mean the birth and meeting our baby is going to be amazingly special no matter what. I don't think finding out the sex then would make it any more special (for me - maybe for others it would!) Finding out at our 20 week scan will be a day that DH and I always remember and I love those days. 

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  • We are team green, my DH would find out if I wanted to, but I don't! Aside from clothes, I wouldn't buy gender specific baby items, but my main reason is that I've just always wanted to find out in the moment of birth. It just seems beautiful and special to me. I can understand why people want to know and I don't disagree with people finding out, it's just not how I want it for me!
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  • image lalamakita:
    We were team green with our first 2. I liked the mystery I guess, I can't really remember why. I never really got twitchy about not knowing.

    This time around I think we'll find out, since our kids are 6 and 4.5, they'll be involved more and interested, so we thought it'd be fun for them to know. I'm sure my DD will want a sister and my DS a brother, so hope finding out early might give them a chance to get used to whether its a girl or boy. Is anyone in this same boat with older siblings having an opinion and possibly disappointment?


    Yes! My DD almost 10yrs want a sister so bad! And so we are going to find out. So if its not she can get use to the idea of it. She is going to be the one to announce it to the family.
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  • We are finding out. Its a surprise whether you choose to find out at the ultrasound, or if you choose to find out at birth.

    I want to know because it personally makes me feel more of a bond to the child. Knowing if its a boy or girl, envisioning stuff, its nice. Also, it makes it easier for me to purchase items, or at least put it on a list.

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  • I can't even wait until 20 weeks to find out. Patience is not my strong suit. There is really no way I could be team green.. I would go crazy not knowing.
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    3) If we have more than one child, it will be much easier to re-use gender neutral clothing and supplies. Why buy stuff all over again in a different color?

    Just my thoughts.

    I'm definitely NOT team green but can respect anyone who is.  The point above is what I feel is the only downfall of picking Blue or Pink.

    My plan is to buy or register for gender neutral BIG items: the stroller, car seat, bassinet, high chair, bouncy seat, etc.  Aside from those big items I definitely want to plan ahead, decorate the room, etc.

    I think whether you find out at 20 weeks or at 40 when you give birth - it's a surprise one way or the other... just 20 weeks earlier or later Stick out tongue

    DH & I cannot wait to find out!!

     

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    If we have a girl this time and decide to have more later, I think I will want to be team green. I kind of want to be this time, but we are on a tight budget while DH is in vet school so we need to be able to buy things here and there instead of only after baby is born. I'm sure we could manage, I just think it would be easier to know this time around.
    Is there a boy or girl exclusive store you must shop at? That must be rough.

    Well I should add that I still have all the gender neutral big items, but as far as clothes and nursery items go I would much prefer not to only buy gender neutral things as there are very limited options. If this is baby is a boy, we will be basically set. If it is a girl, I will want to stalk craigslist and consignment stores for things I still need. I've seen quite a few things that are steals that I would buy if I knew I was having a girl. 
    I'm not saying it can't be done (See last sentence of my previous post). I'm just saying I'd like the extra time to try to find budget friendly gender specific items.

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  • Team Green.  No particular reason, other than I love the anticipation and excitement waiting until delivery.  We were team green with DS and loved it.  There was no question as to if we were going to be again.

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  • We found out with our son, and were open to the idea of being team green in a later pregnancy.  Even despite that openness we will be find out this time around, since DH is going to be deployed for the birth.  Since he is going to miss so much as it is, we want him to be able to be a part of as much as he can.  
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  • image Mr&MrsMTA:
    I am a big planner so def NOT Team Green person. I dont get the whole team green thing anyway.....if you find out at 18wks prego or at birth either way its a surprise right? whatever to each his own I guess.

    This. I am a planner and since I do not know now what they are, now or later its going to be surprise  either way. I think its more economical for us with twins coming that we find out so we can get what we need x2.

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  • We found out with the first three... I figure why not try it the other way this time. DH and the 3 kids aren't necessarily on board yet, but I'm working on them :-)
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  • I admire couples that can go team green. I have no self control and need to know ASAP. 

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    I think either way you go will be special. I'm not team green not even for planning reasons but basically because I'm already tired of calling our baby "it" I want to be able to say he/she and picture my little one more clearly. Plus I figure it adds another special day for DH and I. I mean the birth and meeting our baby is going to be amazingly special no matter what. I don't think finding out the sex then would make it any more special for me maybe for others it would! Finding out at our 20 week scan will be a day that DH and I always remember and I love those days.nbsp;

    This is exactly how I felt the first time!

    I also did not want to be pinked todeath, which is why I registered for neutral things and made it clear to our immediate family that we weren't into pink. We still received some cute pink things and were grateful but it wasn't overwhelming. It's nice now to have a mix of colors. I had enough selfcontrol aside from that to make it clear what we wanted, in case our next child is not a girl. When I bought anything, it was neutral or "boy" clothes to balance it out.

    A friend of mine found out and kept it secret from everyone else. We considered that but felt like the baby's name would be the big surprise, in addition to you know, Having the baby.
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  • image janneann1127:
    I can't even wait until 20 weeks to find out. Patience is not my strong suit. There is really no way I could be team green.. I would go crazy not knowing.

    THANK YOU!  I have no problem with people wanting to find out, I just can't stand all the stupid excuses.  Thank you for saying what the issue actually is - needing to know.  Period.  Not shopping, not planning.  Just impatience.  It's ok, we're human.

    And the whole "it's a surprise whether you find out at 20 weeks or 40" argument is only ever given by people finding out... just an observation :) 

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    We are definitely team green. I understand other people wanting to "plan", and normally, I am a MAJOR "planner"; but I want some surprise. Other than that, my reasons are:

    1) I hate the color pink. I know that if it's a girl, it is inevitable that she will eventually wear pink, but I enjoy the thought of having other color options. I went to my husband's cousin baby shower last month, she is having twin girls. I swear, I was the only person who bought anything other than pink! YUCK! The room looked like it had been doused in pepto-bismol. No thank you.

    2) When people don't know the gender, they are more likely to purchase items you actually need from your registry, rather than buy all kinds of "cutesy" gender specific clothing that you don't really need.

    3) If we have more than one child, it will be much easier to re-use gender neutral clothing and supplies. Why buy stuff all over again in a different color?

    Just my thoughts.

    I couldn't agree more. We didn't find out with DD and won't this time. I never once felt under prepared.  

    I particularly agree with #2. Out of all of my friends I'm the only who didn't find out, and I'm the only one who received registry only items at my shower. My poor girlfriends were inundated with so many clothes they not only couldn't use half of them, but they had a ton to buy after the shower. They all said they regretted sharing the sex prior to the shower. 

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  • Ok first of all, I was super excited to see this post get a star, that has never happened to me before!  

    Thank you for all your friendly input!  I am for sure an instant gratification kind of girl, but I am thinking this might be worth the wait.  I had not thought of the whole "its either a surprise at 20 weeks or at 40" thing, and that actually makes me lean more towards the waiting.  I think maybe we will decide around the time of that 20 week ultra sound whether we will find out or not.  If I say for sure now, it will only make me more impatient to know.

    So I guess I am team green-ish!

  • My first 2 I found out, this one I'm really hoping to not find out. I haven't sold my H on this yet, but he'll come around. It's the last one I think so I just want to do something different :)

    I'm also hoping if we don't find out, our family wont bury us in pink or blue clothing.

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  • We did not find out with either of our previous pregnancies. It was originally because we really felt like it was fun to not know and we were just so focused on being healthy and excited. It was awesome for my husband to be able to run out to family & tell them too!

    The third time around we are debating on finding out because we have one of each & it would be nice to donate or get rid of some of our things.

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