February 2013 Moms

Are there any other wafflers here?

Every night when my house gets quiet and I start to really focus on how uncomfortable I am, I sit on the couch and think about how I want to meet my baby now.  I start wishing I would go into labor.

Then it's time for bed and I crawl in and am thankful that I'm not in labor and am going to get another night of undisturbed sleep.

Then I wake up and have a crazy morning with my kids and am thankful there isn't another little person here to take care of too.

But then I get at work and realize I don't want to be here and wish I was at home with a newborn instead.

I can't make up my mind on whether I want to have this baby sooner or later.  Anyone with me?

    

Re: Are there any other wafflers here?

  • Yes, there are times when I want this baby to be born right now (usually when I'm trying to fall asleep at night and get kicked in the ribs or at 4am when I wake up and can't fall back asleep). Then I feel bad because I know its better for her to "cook" a little longer and the reason I want her out is for my own comfort and because I want to meet her (and because I am really looking forward to being away from the office for 12 weeks). Just depends what hour you ask
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  • Yes, this is me, exactly...I want her to come, but then DH sit down to watch a movie or decide to sleep in and I am thankful we can still do it!
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  • I am right there with you!

    On one hand, I'm so excited to meet her, and since this is my first and I don't have any other kids at home to take care of, I'm looking forward to having some time off from both my jobs and just focusing on the baby for awhile instead of having my attention pulled in a million different directions.

    But on the other hand, I still feel surprisingly good at 38 1/2 weeks and in a weird way I think I might actually miss being pregnant.  And there are little loose ends I really want to make sure I can tie up both at work and at home before she arrives, so having another week or two to prepare doesn't seem like the worst thing in the world!



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  • I definitely waffle back and forth like you.  I definitely want to meet this little guy and I definitely want to get this show on the road, but then I remember that our (mine and DHs) lives will never be the same again.  I guess I'm just a bit scared of the huge change coming.  I think we'll be fine and all, but it's still a little scary.  That, and I get worried about labor.  Being a FTM, it seems very intimidating.  So I go back and forth all the time.
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  • That's me since the start of this week (I hit 36 wks) and  knowing that DH will be in town for this up coming week.

    So I have been going okay after Friday I wouldn't mind if baby comes because then DH can be apart of the birth and not just see pictures or hear about it.

    But I know it should stay in longer then 37 weeks because those extra 3 weeks can help out a lot, plus you know it gives me some more time to figure out what kinda mom I want to be and ...

    But on the other hand I would really like to meet the LO, find out what LO is (team green) and it wouldn't be so bad not feeling like something scratching me where nothing should be scratching >.>

    So totally with you! 

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  • I know, I feel like I'm just playing a sick waiting game with myself!
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  • It hasn't been a constant back and forth, but last night before bed I told my husband, "Man, I'm tired....[internal lightbulb] but this is nothing compared to how tired I'll be after the baby's here!"
  • I'm confused by the comment "another night of undisturbed sleep". If I were able to get just ONE of those I may be a waffler. But I am in so much hip and pelvic pain that I sleep no more than one hour at a time and then I have to get up and hobble around before I can get back in bed and try again. So I am actually looking forward to getting 2 hours of comfortable sleep in a row LOL. How sad is that?
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    I'm confused by the comment "another night of undisturbed sleep". If I were able to get just ONE of those I may be a waffler.

    I count undisturbed as not having any children bother me through the night.  I'm still up 2-3 times a night to pee and have hours here and there of insomnia, but at least I can lie there in peace in the bed and not have to sit up to nurse, change a diaper, give a pee-covered kid a bath, or anything like that.  I'm just relishing being alone in my bed.  We just got DD sleeping through the night a few months ago, so I want to enjoy it for as long as I can.

        
  • I feel exactly the same as you actually. The kids are in bed at night and once everyone is settled, I sit and think how nice it will be when I'm not just sitting here but am nursing or cooing at LO. But then I get in to bed and every night try to relish in being able to just go to sleep when Im tired, and when I wake up to pee I'm so thankful that I can just go back to sleep! I think how different it will be when she's here and how much more tired I'll be. Than we have a super crazy morning with the kids and I'm glad that LO is just safe and sound and not making me get up an extra hour early to nurse her so I can still get DS to school on time. As much as I want her to come, I'm totally terrified to have three! I don't know how you do it! Everyone tells me it's a lot harder because you only have two hands, so I'm really nervous. And I'm not quite sure yet how to spread my attention around to three different kids so they still all feel loved and not left out. I know for sure though once a month on Sunday's DH is going to take the older two out for breakfast just the three of them, so I'll have time with just baby and they'll get time away with daddy.  Any advice you have on parenting three adamwife I'm more than happy to have it lol.
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    I feel exactly the same as you actually. The kids are in bed at night and once everyone is settled, I sit and think how nice it will be when I'm not just sitting here but am nursing or cooing at LO. But then I get in to bed and every night try to relish in being able to just go to sleep when Im tired, and when I wake up to pee I'm so thankful that I can just go back to sleep! I think how different it will be when she's here and how much more tired I'll be. Than we have a super crazy morning with the kids and I'm glad that LO is just safe and sound and not making me get up an extra hour early to nurse her so I can still get DS to school on time. As much as I want her to come, I'm totally terrified to have three! I don't know how you do it! Everyone tells me it's a lot harder because you only have two hands, so I'm really nervous. And I'm not quite sure yet how to spread my attention around to three different kids so they still all feel loved and not left out. I know for sure though once a month on Sunday's DH is going to take the older two out for breakfast just the three of them, so I'll have time with just baby and they'll get time away with daddy.  Any advice you have on parenting three adamwife I'm more than happy to have it lol.

    Two for me was the hardest transition.  I think it was much harder to go from giving one child your undivided attention than going from already having it divided to just dividing it a little more.  You already know how to juggle the children around if you have two, so what's another one?  My biggest word of advice is to get a good baby carrier.  It's such a lifesaver for me.  I'll be honest, DD napped on my back in the Ergo for at least 3-4 months of her life, because it was just the easiest way to get her to sleep and allow me to focus on the other two kids at the same time.  I'm not sure if you breastfeed or not, but just being a human pacifier saves my sanity as well.  If the kids are bring crazy, the last thing I want to hear is a fussy baby, so it's easiest to just pop a boob in the baby's mouth and have a little more peace.  Creates horrible habits, but it's all about surviving the moment in this house Wink

    You'll do fine.  I honestly don't think three is much worse than two.  You're already a pro if you can handle two!

        
  • I am so back and forth about it.  Everyone keeps saying things like, I bet you can't wait to have that baby, to which I reply, he is fine where he is.  They look at me like I am crazy.   But babies are much easier in than out.  Plus, I worry so much about the transition for DD.  she freaked out yesterday when we put his car seat in the car, and pouted the entire car ride, she just kept pointing over saying baby?  

    Plus, although I am getting horrible sleep, at least it is sleep, or some quiet time to myself , even if it is at 2 am when I can't fall back to sleep.

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  • Yes and I don't have any kids yet!! I want to meet this baby so much but had a moment yesterday when I was home alone with just my pets (1 dog and 4 cats) and couldn't stop thinking about how precious the quiet time was and how little there was left! 

    After a nearly 2 year process from us first trying to get preggo until now, I never thought I would feel any type of desire to delay baby's arrival but the closer it gets, sometimes, I wish we had a little more time!

    Having said that, I'm pretty sure we'll love life just as much once peanut is here!  

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  • Oh, yeah!

    I'm really not ready yet and I know it and want the time to prepare, but then I wish baby were here.

    And then I'm nervous because I'm a FTM right before I get excited about meeting my baby soon!

    Its confusing.

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  • Amen. I'm with you 100% except for the work thing. When LO gets here I'll still have to be doing some work and keep thinking that I need to really get stuff done while I'm not trying to do it with a newborn. I'm pretty much only answerable to myself (writing a dissertation), so it's really hard to get motivated at this point.

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  • Giving baby as much time as needed but I'm no waffler. I want LO to be here, now, not later and simply cannot wait!!
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  • Yes! I'll sit here wishing I would go into labor and then be gratful that I haven't yet. Its so weird. 
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