I work for a jerk. To give you an idea of the type of guy he is, he's a retired Navy captain who has told me that women's equality has led to the downfall of American society. On multiple occassions. And this is just the tip of the iceberg. When I told him I was KU his first response was, "Was this planned?? This is really goin to ruin next semester" (we work at a university- he's a program director; I'm the program advisor).
About two months ago he asked, "Are you going to throw yourself one of those baby shower things?" I told him no, but that I think my aunt was going to throw one for me to which he said, "Well, whenever they send invitations, give me one. I don't want to go, but I should probably get you something." Well, invitations have been sent out but my aunt, SIL, and everyone else throwing the shower are trying to keep the theme a surprise. Should I just tell him where I'm registered and keep it at that? He's asked a few more times because he's heading out for surgery on the 4th, but I just feel REALLY uncomfortable sending him an email saying, "They sent out invitations but won't give me one. Here's where I'm registered." What would you do?