February 2013 Moms

Sex before delivery?

Does anyone else feel pressure to have sex because of the pending delivery? My husband is active duty and will leave two weeks after birth, so our 6 week wait will actually be a 4-5 month wait. I HATE pregnant sex and he isn't a fan either, but I feel like I should because I'll kick myself later. I need one of those sex swings I think Embarrassed

 

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  • I just had a horrible visual of me 9 mos pregnant trying to utilize a sex swing. DON'T DO IT!

    I'd say if the experience won't be particularly pleasant for either of you then you should find another way to be intimate and spend these last nights together rather than force something that's ackward and uncomfortable. 

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  • I say do something else together. 
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  • Why don't you do something else together that you used to do, but haven't in a while(my dh and I haven't been to the movies in months, it was always a nice date to go), then cuddle afterwards. 
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  • Pregnant sex has been pretty much sucking. We haven't done much of it for the past couple months. But I do know what you mean with the wait after delivery. Maybe I'll ask DH if he wants to give it a go one last time (for his sake, not mine... I couldn't care less about sex right now!).
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  • I'm really over PG sex right now, but I too feel like I should throw DH some mercy sex.  He'll likely get a bj or an ol' fashioned (hj) before delivery.  Ugh.
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  • There was an article in our local news the other day about a couple caught having sex in the delivery room. I wasn't sure if I was grossed out (ick-hospital sex?!) or impressed. I'm totally not in the mood- haven't been for months! Hopefully with baby out of the way (literally), we'll get back to business before too long! :)
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  • We've been rocking the pity sex, and oddly he knows its that and caters to it. I start everything still because he doesn't want to offend me. If I want attention I get it but if he starts focusing on me and I'm not feeling it I just "don't worry about me babe" and he speeds things along for him. It's pretty much only spooning at this point because I can't keep my belly out of the way but he takes what he can and pushes nothing and I still get to be held a lot in the process. He gets his, I get snuggles, and all is well. BJ's have become an acceptable exchange. I feel worse about his lack of sexy time then he does. He's so sweet and pushes nothing and tries to just cuddle at every chance because as he says, "As long as I'm close to you I'm happy." :) God sometimes I just love my SO. What a man I've gotten to watch my boy become. <3 
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  • 3rd tri for me is sex time, sorry guys :) I'm not as bad as a friend who turns porn star when pregnant (she screams the dirtiest things ever!) but if you're in the right position...
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    I'm really over PG sex right now, but I too feel like I should throw DH some mercy sex.nbsp; He'll likely get a bj or an ol' fashioned hj before delivery. Ugh.


    I'm pretty sure I would vomit on DHs crotch if I attempted a BJ these days. Not sexy...
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    image almostjennifer:
    I'm really over PG sex right now, but I too feel like I should throw DH some mercy sex.nbsp; He'll likely get a bj or an ol' fashioned hj before delivery. Ugh.
    I'm pretty sure I would vomit on DHs crotch if I attempted a BJ these days. Not sexy...

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    Not kidding. 

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    I just had a horrible visual of me 9 mos pregnant trying to utilize a sex swing. DON'T DO IT!

    I'd say if the experience won't be particularly pleasant for either of you then you should find another way to be intimate and spend these last nights together rather than force something that's ackward and uncomfortable. 

    I literally lol'd at your comment! But I agree with this AND see where the OP is coming from. We had sex a couple days ago and it was fine or whatever, but honestly we both were laughing throughout because of the awkward "oops...nope, that's not gonna work" - position change - lol Sorry for the TMI but pregnant sex is hilarious! However, afterwards I was like "oh wow...that could be the last time we have sex until weeks after baby comes!!"

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    image LittleLuvBug:
    image almostjennifer:
    I'm really over PG sex right now, but I too feel like I should throw DH some mercy sex.nbsp; He'll likely get a bj or an ol' fashioned hj before delivery. Ugh.
    I'm pretty sure I would vomit on DHs crotch if I attempted a BJ these days. Not sexy...

    BTDT.  

    Not kidding. 

    Lol!!

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  • image MrsW0615:

    image LittleLuvBug:
    image almostjennifer:
    I'm really over PG sex right now, but I too feel like I should throw DH some mercy sex.nbsp; He'll likely get a bj or an ol' fashioned hj before delivery. Ugh.
    I'm pretty sure I would vomit on DHs crotch if I attempted a BJ these days. Not sexy...

    BTDT.  

     

    Not kidding. 

     

    same here ...  Embarrassed

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  • I kind of feel like I want to have as much sex now as I can because I do not look forward to the sex-ban. But I know better and realize that it won't help any. Also, third tri seems to be my sexually active trimester. That's probably why I seem to be focused on it?
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  • image somebuddiesgettingmarried:
    There was an article in our local news the other day about a couple caught having sex in the delivery room. I wasn't sure if I was grossed out (ick-hospital sex?!) or impressed. I'm totally not in the mood- haven't been for months! Hopefully with baby out of the way (literally), we'll get back to business before too long! :)

    Um, awesome. lol 

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  • I do, but only because I know the semen will help ripen my cervix.  It's purely clinical at this point.  lol

     

        
  • OP, my husband is reporting to a training command from mid-feb to mid-april so while our sex ban isn't quite as long as yours but still almost 9 weeks! I definitely feel your pain and well, urgency. Admittedly, we've been sexing regularly the whole time... I am one of the ones with the increased libido and it hasn't waned much. DH was a bit out of the mood from maybe week 30-37 because I was having such issues with contractions and was on and off of pelvic rest a few times. But like Adamwife said, we're all about it now for those lovely prostaglandins :D 
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  • I am another one of the few that is taking advantage of all that I can right now. Yes it's becoming awkward. Yes there is really only a few positions that I enjoy/can actually do right now (I dont know about anything else but being on top is waaaay to exhausting and I feel like I am going to have a heart attack...lol). Maybe its bc we only see each on the weekends, but my sex drive is in overload currently. Though if we currently lived together I could see it as a daily thing at the minimum....
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    I do, but only because I know the semen will help ripen my cervix.  It's purely clinical at this point.  lol

     

     

    YES!

  • image +adamwife+:

    I do, but only because I know the semen will help ripen my cervix.  It's purely clinical at this point.  lol

     

     

    YES!

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    image mrsdugger:

    I just had a horrible visual of me 9 mos pregnant trying to utilize a sex swing. DON'T DO IT!

    I'd say if the experience won't be particularly pleasant for either of you then you should find another way to be intimate and spend these last nights together rather than force something that's ackward and uncomfortable. 

    I literally lol'd at your comment! But I agree with this AND see where the OP is coming from. We had sex a couple days ago and it was fine or whatever, but honestly we both were laughing throughout because of the awkward "oops...nope, that's not gonna work" - position change - lol Sorry for the TMI but pregnant sex is hilarious! However, afterwards I was like "oh wow...that could be the last time we have sex until weeks after baby comes!!"

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    We were the exact same way a couple of nights ago!! It still felt great, but DH kept thinking we should try new positions b/c he thought it would make it easier on me. I almost broke my hip, LOL!!  

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    I do, but only because I know the semen will help ripen my cervix.  It's purely clinical at this point.  lol

    Yes Sorry, hubs...


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