Ok ladies, I'll give you the info and then please be brutally honest with me. I just don't know how to handle this situation or if maybe it's ok on some level?
I have one son already, he will be 7 in Oct. My DH and I are expecting in Sept. and this will be our first child together. Some of you might remember from an earlier post but my younger sister and I are prego at the same time, both due in Sept. My older sister has already offered to throw us a combined (very small) shower. It would strictly be just family...grandma, aunts, a few cousins, that's it.
Now my DH mentioned last night that he wants us to throw our own baby shower for all of our friends. I said absolutely NOT! I told him a couple can not throw their own shower. He gave me this whole long speech about how traditions have changed and things aren't like they used to be. I still said NO! But now he is thinking that we not register for any gifts whatsoever, and just have a gathering of friends at the park and BBQ and call it a "Baby Celebration" or a "Babyque"...you know like BBQ : /
So what is your opinion? Is it ok to have a gathering of friends, not call it a shower, and not register for gifts? Because quite frankly we don't need gifts. We can get everything we need on our own. But DH really wants to celebrate the baby coming with all of our friends. Plus this is his first baby and I can understand him wanting to share his excitement with everyone...who wouldn't? Thoughts?