So my husband's best friend's wife is throwing my shower 1) because she offered and 2) because I wanted someone neutral to do so if I was going to have one at all. Let me explain...
My husband's parents are divorced and his dad has since remarried. This woman is lovely, kind, compassionate, funny, and giving which is more than I could have asked for in a MIL.
My husband's mom is still bitter over the divorce (which happened more than 10 years ago) and apparently she got into a physical altercation with one of the women her ex-husband was dating 7 or 8 years ago.
So when his mom stopped by yesterday I told her to be looking out for a baby shower invitation and I gave her the heads up that the other MIL and my 15 year old SIL are also invited. She immediately stopped packing up her stuff and just looked at me.
"I'm not coming" she said and my husband just looked at her. I had told him that she wouldn't come and that she can't put her bitterness aside for the sake of her grandchild. It made me angry - seriously? It's for a few hours and they don't have to sit next to each other: I'm not expecting them to be best friends, although I wish they could get to know each other.
I made my case to her for 15 minutes and she still didn't say anything.
My husband says she'll show. What now? I mean is this the childish behavior I have to deal with at every function for the baby? I can't invite her and my FIL/ MIL to the little one's birthdays?
Ugh this is so frustrating!