Before Christmas both my MIL and my best friend separately asked me if I wanted them to host a baby shower. I told each that I wasn't sure if the other was going to do something and said that we could talk about it more in January. Well now it's almost the end of January and neither has mentioned it again, though I see them both regularly. What would you do? I'd prefer for my friend to host it because my MIL hosted my bridal shower and hosted my SILs shower when she had my nephew, but I'm the first of my social circle to get pregnant so this is new and fun for my friend. Would it be really rude to ask my friend? How would you word it? I mean she probably won't be offended no matter what I say to her but I'd rather be tactful and polite. Or should I just not say anything? I'd like to have a shower but won't be broken hearted if I don't have one. Thanks!
ETA: I hope this doesn't fall under "If you have to ask, it's probably rude!" I honestly am not sure what protocol is here.