We got DD a little potty around Christmas time, and in the last week or so she got really, really interested in it. She didn't actually *do* anything on it, but every time we went in to the bathroom for a diaper change, she wanted to sit on her potty with a naked bottom and practice wiping, and then she threw a fit when I went to put on a new diaper. Now, the PTing book I've decided to follow ("oh crap. potty training") advises PTing between 20-30 months and to pay attention to when you think LO is ready and then go for it not in a casual manner but very directly so it goes faster. Since she's been showing signs, I don't want to miss the ideal window of opportunity for PTing her when it might be a lot easier than if we try later down the road. She also hasn't really gotten into the terrible 2s yet, so she's not being defiant, which could make things a lot easier. Plus right now I only have her to take care of and not a newborn, too
However, LO is due in about 4 weeks, I am totally exhausted, and DH is not going to be around much over the next 6 weeks because of a volunteer firefighting course he has to take. All in all, awful timing to start a serious PTing regimen. I had hoped to hold off until April, when DD will be 2 and we'll hopefully be settled into a routine with LO.
What do you think? Those who have gone through PTing an older child before - would you do it now while she's showing signs and I can concentrate on her alone but when I won't have much help from DH and am really tired, or would you wait a couple of months and hope that it goes well then, too??
Re: S+TMs, potty training an older child
With #1 I did everything the books said and caved to the pressure from family members to get him trained by a certain age. He wasn't interested at all and it ended up prolonging the entire thing and creating a lot of unnecessary laundry. We started training a little after age 2 and I don't think he was completely day trained until he was closer to 3. So it was a whole year of agony.
With #2 I decided to wait until he was ready and follow his cues, regardless of age and it went so smoothly. He decided he wanted to do it at age 2.5 and it was only three days before he was day trained.
I'm sticking to that philosophy from now on. People keep telling me I need to train DD now, but she isn't really showing any signs of interest other than letting me know she is dirty or wet (something I've come to realize isn't an indicator of readiness to potty train, but more of just a normal developmental milestone).
I've never trained right before we had a baby, but I've had friends and family that did and they dealt with serious regression after the baby came and essentially had to start over, so I would at least wait until the baby comes. I trained DS2 when DD was less than six months old and it wasn't a big deal at all. That's probably what I'll do this time too.
My biggest word of advice is to follow your DDs lead. If she wants the diaper, let her have it for now. It will save you a ton of stress!!
I'm right here - Liam asks to go on the potty but we haven't fully committed to underwear full time. My plan is the second month of my maternity leave when hopefully I'll be able to concentrate on him more, we won't be going out very much, and we can be consistent without having to worry about how daycare handles it.
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You can always go and give it a try, but be accepting if when little one comes DD relapses.I started training DS back around late August. He got it down pretty well really quickly. We had a small relapse but only when it came to using potty's in public places. But we got that mastered in a week. He has been doing really well now. No accidents since before Halloween.
What I did for potty training was I started him in a pullup(only 2 days though) and everytime I went to the bathroom, i took him in and sat him on his potty to try. The pull-ups had to go though because I realized he did not really care if he went in it. Too much like a diaper I think. So We went straight to real underwear. After 2 accidents in those, he did not like the feeling immediatly so it helped him learn really quickly. As the day went on, i would just ask him if he had to go potty every 20-30 minutes. Soon he was able to tell me he had to go and would go. Didn't take that long
You have to be ready to give it your all. And reward systems are good too, we did stickers on a chart.
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence