February 2013 Moms

DH on my case about weight gain

He's been bugging me lately because he says he's worried I haven't gained enough weight and he's worried the baby will be scrawny, and have low weight when he drops his 10% after birth.  I've gained about 12 or 13 pounds, (horrible nausea for the first 5 1/2 months kept me from eating much) but the doctor's not worried.  I've explained that the amount of weight I gain is not relative to the size of the baby, nor will it affect the amount of breast milk I make.  what else can I tell him?

 

Note:  I was a curvy 5'10" to start with, so it's not like I was a bone rack.

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Re: DH on my case about weight gain

  • Tell him to shut up, that's what I would do, lol. If your doctor isn't concerned, he doesn't need to be.

    I lost 20lbs in my 1st trimester so I've only actually "gained" 4lbs over my weight pre-pregnancy. Baby girl is measuring on track, estimated to be 6lbs 7oz currently. 

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  • Tell him that unless he has more medical training than your OB, he should stop trying to tell you how your weight gain will affect LO. Also, have you explained to him that with your grown uterus, placenta, amniotic fluid, LO, and expanded lung capacity that there's not a whole lot of room left for extra food? I, at least, am eating smaller portions than normal and not snacking nearly as much most of the time. There just isn't room!

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  • Tell him not to worry...I am also a curvy 5' 11" (193.5 lbs day I found out I was pregnant) and weighed in at a hefty 194.2 this morning. I was worried about the baby as well and all of the doctors said he is just fine - 81st percentile in size as a matter of fact! The baby gets what it needs and leaves you the rest. AS long as you are taking your vitamins and the doctors don't seem worried...don't stress! 

    Good luck! :-) 

  • Agree with all PP. I've lost 4lbs total so far (35 weeks tomorrow) but baby is measuring 6 lbs 1 oz so far and in the 74th percentile! :)
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  • Agreed.  As long as your OB is not concerned neither should your husband.  I'm also still down 4lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight.  My OB is not concerned at all, and at my growth ultrasound a week and a half ago baby was weighing in at 4lbs 11oz (which was 53% for gestational age), which my OB was very happy with.
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  • Baby eats first.  The baby will continue to get what he or she needs from you, either way.  Assuming that you are actually eating and taking your prenatals, the only one who could maybe be harmed would be you, bc the baby might be robbing your body of nutrients you need.  
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  • Really, mom's weight gain doesn't have that much to do with baby's size. I have a TINY friend who gained less than 20 and had 6-7 pound babies each time, a plus sized mom who gained about 8-10 and had a 7.5 pound baby, and I gained 30 with DD and she was 5 lbs (This time I'm over 30 and LO is measuring really small.)

    Maybe he should come to an appointment with you so the OB can reassure him?

  • My DH and I were concerned through a good portion of my pregnancy about weight gain.I lost 30 pounds in the first 13 weeks, and haven't been able to keep 10 pounds on, I gain a little and then loose it again. So we were worried that this LO would be a little one. But when we went for our 31 week ultrasound baby was measuring at 4 1/2 pounds!! Along with my stomach measuring a bit ahead.Though I am loosing more weight as of last appointment.

    So yeah, you are right, weight gain for you is not relative to baby size.

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  • This is what I was going to suggest, bring him to your next check up. Let him hear straight from the doc that the baby is doing fine, regardless of your weight gain (or lack thereof). 
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  • I was up 15 then got sick recently and now up 13lbs (lost two lbs), I am at 147 and I am 5'6''. Doctor doesn't seemed worried. If you start measuring very small they will order an ultrasound. Tell him not too worry until there is reason too, I am not worried about my baby and I have gained the same as you.
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  • image dbowitz:
    This is what I was going to suggest, bring him to your next check up. Let him hear straight from the doc that the baby is doing fine, regardless of your weight gain (or lack thereof). 

     

    This. And I kinda like the tell him shut up option too lol. If he's been told doctor isn't worried and baby is fine all he is doing is stressing you and that you and baby both don't need

     

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  • I only gained 13 with my first. She was perfect and healthy the whole time. I'm 5' 7'' and curvy too. I craved nothing but fresh fruits and veggies my whole pregnancy so I was losing my own weight while gaining baby weight. I've gained 24 this time around but it's still the same scenario. I get thinner everywhere else but my belly when I'm pregnant. Tell him to just be happy if Dr. says your fine. You may come home lighter than you were prepregnancy! I did!!!
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    I only gained 13 with my first. She was perfect and healthy the whole time. I'm 5' 7'' and curvy too. I craved nothing but fresh fruits and veggies my whole pregnancy so I was losing my own weight while gaining baby weight. I've gained 24 this time around but it's still the same scenario. I get thinner everywhere else but my belly when I'm pregnant. Tell him to just be happy if Dr. says your fine. You may come home lighter than you were prepregnancy! I did!!!

    This was my experience also with my first. I ended up 5 lbs lighter when we brought him home from the hospital!  He was perfectly healthy - 6lb 7oz. Things are going the same this time around. I say the baby is still getting what he/she needs. I'm 5' 1" and was overweight to begin with.

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  • Tell your husband that I'm 35 weeks, only gained 6lbs and my baby is estimated to be "big" at birth.

    Weight gain is not directly proportional to the size of the baby.

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  • My husband is on me too. To the point where he makes me dinner even when I'm not hungry. :( I think he just figured because I gained 40lbs with my first that everyone should. My doctor isn't too concerned, though she does say that I am only barely on track. I feel like that's not fair. I was 180lbs and 5'6" at the beginning of my pregnancy... I'm in no real need of weight gain.

    Tell him that as long as the doctor thinks it's ok it should be fine.





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