I am making my birth plan and I don't want my husband as my "coach" in delivery. I keep reading about "husband coaching the wife" when she delivers. For all I know, he might get nervous and forget the labor/delivery techniques or never learn them to begin with. Also, it seems patronizing that I would need to be "coached" by my husband who has never been around another laboring woman in his life. Does anyone have a suggestion for including husband in the birth team but having an experienced doula or nurse as the "coach." I am happy to have my husband as a helper to caress me or assist me during the delivery. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I have a negative visceral response to the prospect that I will grow the baby, plan virtually everything, and then my husband will "coach" me (e.g., give me commands) in the final hours. Is anyone else facing this personal dilemma? Thanks for any advice!