I have often felt ousted here on the bump...which is part of the reason I took the break but came back again after our most recent loss. I like the idea of the vent specific post; and I try to put vent in my post titles when it is a vent but what is this community supposed to be? I know a lot of people have been here a long time and even though I had my break it's still been 6 months since I came to this board but I still feel for the ladies that are in their angry faze; they need to be angry and sometimes I need to be angry.
It's just hard to never offend anybody ever or not annoy anybody ever. The social labyrinth is almost as complicated as TTC itself.
I don't know what to say; this feels sort of like bullying. It just seems like if a post annoys you you shouldn't click on it...or if you don't want to hear about loss stuff then the normal TTC board is better...I don't know. I just think it's mean to discount parts of people's grieving process just because you are far beyond that particular part yourself. This is feeling very middle school; I might be done just as I began again. There's a lot of wonderful ladies and advice and support but the drama is just so distracting.
Re: le sigh.
Thank you.
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Seriously, we never said don't vent. It just needs to be a more even mix. We are all dealing with the same sh!t. It's just a matter of how you deal with it.
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This. I totally get what you're saying. But I don't think it was meant in a middle school drama way. I think people got wrongly offended [which I understand if you are new why you may], but it ended up being taken the wrong way.
I agree this should be a place to vent. It was just about those who only ever vent all the time.
I do understand what you are saying here. I just don't think it was meant to offend innocent venters who do no harm.
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I understand what you're saying, eb. And I'm a pretty Negative Nancy myself. But I'm also connecting what some of the ladies are talking about with a "friend" I have IRL. We're not really even close. Honestly, we barely know each other. But still, she calls or texts or FBs me constantly with nothing (nothing) but complaints. Not only is there no reciprocation as far as how I might be doing, but it's excessive. She is sucking the life out of me.
That's sort of how I view certain posts to which car and others have been referring.
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So lost.
Exactly! I am sorry you feel that way. But a lot of these ladies have been here offering support for a long time and when they are doing it everyday for the same person, but getting nothing back, it can be exhausting.
There is not one person here that is trying to be flat out mean or "middle school" ish but no body wants to read vent, after vent, after vent. If you had a friend like that IRL would you think they were a joy to be around? Or would you feel that they were draining?
I think a lot of the new ladies need to realize that we are all real people. Therefore we should all be treated in the same manner you would treat your friends IRL. I have not been here for nearly as long as some ladies, yet here I am not feeling as though I have been alienated. I think that if people feel that way then they, themselves, are probably responsible for those feelings.
I can only hope that I have not done anything wrong. I'm sorry if I have. I am trying very hard to be active and make friends here.
I think you ladies are wonderful and I hope that I am welcome to stay.
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This exactly. Thanks for saying it so eloquently Rosie.
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This. You always know the right thing to say, Rosie
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