Ok, I will try to explain in the shortest, least confusing way... My MIL has 3 sisters. One of them is more than a little dramatic. We will call her #4 (she's the baby of the 4). So after years of drama with #4, MIL and 1 other sister just cut off contact. That leaves 1 sister still in contact with #4. So when MIL gave me her list of family for my shower, I was not surprised to see she invited her 2 sisters, but not #4. No big deal, moving on.
Cut to today, I receive a package with 3 wrapped gifts from the store where we registered, and a note: PeanutR1 and DH - my thoughts and prayers are always with you. Love, Aunt #4
Just through deductive reasoning, we know which Aunt must have told her about the shower and registry. That aunt WILL be at the shower. My H says that we should just open the gifts on our own, and it's his family drama, so I'm going with whatever he wants to do. However, in the broader picture, what is the "correct" thing to do with gifts from people who were not invited to the shower? Save them for the shower, or just open them on your own?