October 2012 Moms

I have HAD ENOUGH. UGH

So we left LO at my MIL's house at my husbands suggestion under the premise that he would only be there from 4 to 9 while we go to his friends house who dont have any children. At 8:30 i told DH that it was time to go get little man and he literally rolled his eyes and actually said "orrrr he can just spend the night there". When I said no I would really like to get him, his childless friend actually went back in the room with his other friends and said "well DH's wife is making him leave to go get the kid" then they all had a big laugh about it and how ridiculous it is that I want to go get OUR child. Its now 10:08 and he is still with my MIL because I was made out to be the bad guy and I left my keys to the car at the house since DH drove. WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN. He is now playing video games and LO is spending the night with his grandmother. I am LIVID. We will be having a fantastic conversation on the way home.

Am I over reacting?
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  • You are definitely not overreacting! I would be so upset... Sorry that happened.
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  • Nope. I would be pissed to.

    You all need some new friends. 

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  • Also, why can't you get your DH's keys and leave his ass there?
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  • No. I'd be livid. Sorry that you have to go through this.
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  • No way are you overreacting! IMO sounds like he wanted to be a childless teenager again. I'm sorry you're having to go through that. That's ridiculous. If that were my DH I would've stomped my woman foot down, bad guy or not.
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  • Ummm... You need to go take your DH's keys and tell him he can stay with his friends while you go pick up your child.

    And it would be a cold day in hel! before I would ever agree to go anywhere with him minus LO again
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  • image meganole25:
    Also, why can't you get your DH's keys and leave his ass there?


    this. I'd have left him there at 8:30, the time originally planned!

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  • Not at all.  I would be completely PO, and I guarantee my husband would know exactly how I felt. That sucks, sorry.
  • Not overreacting at all. I too would be livid with my H if he changed his mind and sided with (immature) friends over me, or pulled a bait and switch, if he'd been thinking that staying later was a possibility all along. How disrepectful.

    Rather than being held hostage, I would probably be thinking through whom I could call to get a ride to my ILs' house and never letting my H drive me anywhere for a very long time.

     

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  • Ohh girl. If I was purposefully stranded somewhere without DD. EVERYONE would pay! Go take the controller so there's no more video games. Start walking, call a taxi. Call anyone.
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  • Nope, I'd be so pissed. I would've gotten the keys from him and left him there. There have been plenty of times that I have either left early or stayed home while MH went/stayed out.
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  • Get the keys, get your baby, and go home.
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  • Not only are you not over reacting, but I read your post to DH.  HIs responce? "Dude, if we leave DD at Grandmas- it's going to be because you and I need private time, not to play video games." 

    You have every right to want your baby with you at night.  I'd be beyond pissed.   

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  • image mrs.ike:
    image meganole25:
    Also, why can't you get your DH's keys and leave his ass there?


    this. I'd have left him there at 8:30, the time originally planned!

    Um. this


  • image nickell5:
    Get the keys, get your baby, and go home.

    This! Also, does your MIL even know there's a chance LO is staying the night? Wth? I want to smack your DH for you! 

  • I think you should have a long talk with your husband once you calm down. He's not perfect, but my husband would never ever disrespect me like that. Those kinds of actions are toxic in a relationship! Is this normal for him? I would think back on other occasions that similar things have happened before talking to him about it, if it isn't a one time thing.

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  • She JUMPS at a chance to keep him. She is one of those that calls LO "hers". I would under any other circumstance gone to get him but its 38 degrees and pooring rain and now past his bedtime. Its just safer at this point.
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    She JUMPS at a chance to keep him. She is one of those that calls LO "hers". I would under any other circumstance gone to get him but its 38 degrees and pooring rain and now past his bedtime. Its just safer at this point.


    At 8:30, it wasn't past his bedtime. Shoulda taken the keys from him and left.

    Imo, leaving LO overnight somewhere (is this the first time?) is something that should be discussed in advance. Not af 8:28, bc your husband wants to play a video game.
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  • You are under reacting. And you are being taken advantage of. This is absolutely not okay.
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  • He has stayed with her overnight twice since was born but once was because I got a stomach virus, the second time was planned days in advance. Of course it was a huge fight on the way home and he made it about him and how i make him feel like he does nothing right. If its not completely visible by now, we have issues that need to be worked out...soon
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  • uhhhhhhhhhhhhh...... yea you are under reacting like pp said. Was your MIL already prepared to potentially have your baby overnight? Enough diapers, formula or BM? Or was your H already set that LO would be spending the night there and just kept that little tid bit away from you?
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    She JUMPS at a chance to keep him. She is one of those that calls LO "hers". I would under any other circumstance gone to get him but its 38 degrees and pooring rain and now past his bedtime. Its just safer at this point.


    First, me being the overly opinionated woman I am, would've put your DH's ahole friend in his place, and embarrassed the crap out of DH in the process. And then I would have left his butt there. But given the above info, It's clearly too late now to get LO, it's not too late to leave his butt there. Get a taxi home, or to your mil's house. There is no way in hell I'd stay somewhere I was so blatantly disrespected. Sorry girl, I'm furious for you.


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  • It's never too late to go get your baby if you are not comfortable leaving him overnight. The more I thibk abiut this the madder I get. So sorry hon!

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  • I am sooo glad that I have other opinions like mine. Amen. Yes, I keep a well stocked diaper bag so she had plenty of everything. Thank God. We are home now and I am taking myself a bath and going to bed. Will be there bright and early to get him.
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  • Want me to come down and throat punch your DH? We can go for ice cream after. It'll be great!

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  • Aww I dont want you to have to dig out of youe eskimo to do that for little ole me!!!! Thanks though :. Ice cream does sound amazing though
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  • image DottyBlue:
    Ummm... You need to go take your DH's keys and tell him he can stay with his friends while you go pick up your child. And it would be a cold day in hel! before I would ever agree to go anywhere with him minus LO again

    This!

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  • image meganole25:
    Also, why can't you get your DH's keys and leave his ass there?


    Yeah.
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  • image elfchique:
    You are under reacting. And you are being taken advantage of. This is absolutely not okay.

    This!! Who gives a sh!t what those people think!! You should have told DH to find a ride home and left him there!! I would NEVER let people guilt trip me into leaving my child overnight with anyone!

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  • I so would have left his ass, got my baby and locked the doors at home. Make him think twice before making such an idiotic, childish decision like that! Rrrrrrr
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