Single Parents

If you're living with your parents

Whats the biggest benefit?
What's your biggest complaint?

Benefit: i pay hardly anything in rent I also hardly make any money and I can go out after bedtime
Complaint: my mother wants me to raise my daughter her way but doesn't want to help. If I take over I'm doing to wrong... Constant power struggle
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Re: If you're living with your parents

  • Perhaps you need your own place? Always good to weigh up the pros and cons......
  • image claire109:
    Perhaps you need your own place? Always good to weigh up the pros and cons......

    Not a possible option but thanks for the .02.
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  • My mom lives with me and its VERY challenging and VERY helpful!

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  • I move back to my dad's recently. He is being supportive. But sometimes we can't get along well and he keeps smoking like there is no tomorrow. I hate it!!!
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  • image mimimimimiiii:
    I move back to my dad's recently. He is being supportive. But sometimes we can't get along well and he keeps smoking like there is no tomorrow. I hate it!!!

    I watched a video in prenatal class about smoke and babies in the womb.  It's pretty bad to even be near second hand smoke, let alone even by someone's clothing that's smoked (3rd hand smoke).  My husband, when he was around during pregnancy was/is a smoker.  I used to make him leave his smoking jacket outside, and wash his face and hands before coming anywhere near me and our baby.  Babies actually stop breathing a bit when there is second hand smoke around when they're in the womb.  It's super hard on them.  I just felt like sharing that with you, not because I think that you're doing something wrong, but because "maybe" just maybe helping your dad to know this might help.  Even if he were to leave his smoking clothes outside or somewhere else and wash his exposed skin it would make a huge difference for your precious baby.  

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  • Benefit: the extra help and support and my DD loves to be around her.

    Downfall: the unwanted advice or being told what to or how to do something
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    Benefit: the extra help and support and my DD loves to be around her. Downfall: the unwanted advice or being told what to or how to do something

    Im so happy Im not alone.

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  • I live with my father, 

    I don't really have any complaints. I mean I'm not happy with my situation, I didn't want to be here at my age, and a single mother.

    But he helps out so much. The deal is as long as I'm in school he will help out. So he watches the baby so I can take a shower, and while I'm in class, and I don't have to pay rent- 

    He doesn't agree with my decisions not to vax and to leave my son 'in tact' but he doesn't bother me much about it.

    I suggest talking to your mom about her lack of help and over abundance of unsolicited advice. You are an adult, and a mother now too, she should hopefully understand :) good luck  

  • Oh. Don't worry you're not : I can completely relate to how you feel!
  • I don't anymore, but did with my first! I loved the close relationship my son developed with his grandparents, and that the advice they had. When he would have  fever and I wanted to rush to the ER, my mom would calm me and tell me what to do. She had seven kids, so her advice was great. 
    The only downfall was not feeling self sufficient. I paid for daycare and worked and went to school. But it was still too little to live on my own for awhile. 
  • I lived with my mom not quite 2 years. The biggest benefit was no rent. I paid utilities and daycare and my car payment.

    But she's a control freak and constantly trying to tell me what to do. She's also an extremely negative person, and it's so nice to be away from that.
  • My Parents & brother are so supportive. I really dont know what I would do with out them. My mom helps in anyway possible and with the baby coming  any day now my dad put my crib together and my brother bought the babys swing and bouncer and tons of toys. Plus I know im never alone and money wise my parents would help out in any way possible. Im very greatful for living with them. I know im going to come back home from the hospital and not have to worry.
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  • The only pros for me is no rent and finally being free from my ex. But everything else is a con. My mother tries to get me to raise ds her way and my dad yells at him before he even notices what he is actually trying to do. Sometimes I wish I never left my ex so I wouldn't have to put up with my parents but I know I wouldn't be better off with him. :/
    When life hands you lemons, you throw them back in life's face and say "F*ck you, I want some Orange juice, B!tch! Make it happen!"

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