My father in law is visiting this weekend. FIL also tends to be - um - phlegmy. He?s constantly coughing up phlegm and I?ve often seen him wipe his nose or cough into tissues and not wash his hands. I don?t have this problem with the other in laws. In fact, I?ve seen BIL make faces in response to FIL?s loud, phlegmy episodes.
What complicates matters is that in addition to being phlegmy, FIL is also VERY easily offended. For example, a few years ago we dropped off DD at my in laws so they could babysit. DH politely asked if they would put away small items that she could potentially choke on that were littering the house. FIL became very confrontational and said he felt ?insulted? that DH was telling him how to do things in his own house and that we should have just trusted them w/o instructing them. He went on to say "we've raised kids before. You don't need to tell us how to do things". DH quickly cowered.
I want hubby to ask FIL to wash his hands before he holds the baby. I don?t want the baby exposed to bodily secretions in the midst of cold/flu season. But hubby seems very nervous about asking his father to wash his hands. What should I do? I don?t feel it?s my place to ask. I think DH should do it. What?s the absolute nicest, possible way to ask FIL to wash his hands without setting him off?
Oh and the one other issue - maybe this is overboard on my part- but I don't want FIL to kiss LO on the face. He's the ONLY one who did this at the hospital...but maybe I should leave this issue alone and just deal with hand washing right now. Sigh.