Infertility

Who knows about your IF??

DH and I have been very open about our IF struggles with our families and friends and sometimes I wish we wouldn't have said anything at all. Most of the family just reads our blog updates and other than asking questions when I see them just lets it be. However, my little sister works in an OB clinic and think she knows everything about everything we are going through. My step mom offers all sorts of unsolicited and completely unhelpful advice. My dad passes wrong and inaccurate information on to other family members.

Does your family know about your IF?? How do you handle it??

Me - 35 DH - 37 SD - 10
Married 10/8/2011
Started TTC July 2011. Infertility workup July & August 2012.

DH - all clear. Me - Unicornuate Uterus discovered at HSG 8/16/12. Referred for IVF 8/28/12. Approved for IVF Warranty Program 10/2/12. Laparoscopy 11/1/12 - removed right rudamentary horn, both tubes, left ovarian cyst and endometriosis.
Given all clear for pregnancy after 1/1/2013.


IVF cycle 1 starts 1/19/13!

12 eggs, 7 mature and all 7 fertilized - 2 Frosties!!

5 day SET 2/4/13 - Beta 2/13: 86 & 2/15: 186 BFP!!!!

EDD: October, 23, 2013



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Re: Who knows about your IF??

  • PAIF response:
    We were very open about all of our IF stuff.
    ....but, then again, the know it all little sister has GOT to be annoying! I didn't have that to contend with...
  • This is a very touchy topic for me

    DH and I only told our parents; My parents are doctors so totally understand... His don't quite get it, but keep their distance about it because we've asked them not to bring it up, but only told them due to DH needing surgery.  My DH also told my BIL without me knowing, incase he had the same issue DH has... well BIL told his wife, who's a b*itch and told the entire family... Many of which we dislike and never intended for them to know because they're nasty, mean, jerks.

    So - my advice is this. If you tell one person, be sure you don't mind everyone knowing all of your business. We were okay with our rents' knowing, but BIL I was pretty pissed about because I knew it would get out.

    I call my mom almost daily to update her- and it's really nice to be able to talk to her. Everyone else I just stay quite around; mainly because if IVF doesn't work, I don't want to have to deal with a thousand "I'm sorry" or "It will happen" remarks.  And people on DHs side are cruel, and I'm sure would have something horrible to say. But now I'm F'd when it comes to that because they all know.

    There's my rant/vent/advice. GL!  

    TTC since early 2011
  • Everyone knows about our IF struggles and our treatment plan except this time we've opted to tell no one but our Pastor about our FET cycle.  We struggled alone for 2 years and when we hit that 2 year mark and everyone was asking us when we're going to have babies we finally told everyone, mainly to get them off my back.  Now I blog and everyone seems to know when the right time to ask questions and when not too. 

    Me- 32, DH- 32- TTC for 4 Years
    IUIs 1-6 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP- M/C
    FET- Beta#1: 69, #2: 482, #3: 1088, #4: 28,318, Ultrasound- 1 beautiful heartbeat
    It's a boy!

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  • Not a soul knows about it. I mentioned to my mom once that we were having trouble conceiving, but that's all I said.
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    Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown
    10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
    11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
    12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
    6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
    IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
    IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
    IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
    IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
    10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
    Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) Please send any positive thoughts our way!
  • Sorry your family is being a pain!

    My mother knows, my best girlfriend, our ND and her DH (Since they're actually friends of ours too), and a few of our closest couple friends (since one couple did IVF last year, and another is going through the adoption process right now - They are also severe MFI).

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    TTC #2 with assistance since 03/11
    Me: 33, Autoimmune (Hashimotos and FMS/CFS)
    Treated with Synthroid, acupuncture, TCM and supplements
    DH: 33, MFI (very low on all counts, high antibodies, hemochromatosis)
    Many treatments tried, none successful

    IVF/ICSI #1 05/14 - EPP/Antagonist, Gonal-F and Luveris, 18R, 14M, 13F - SET of 1BC, all arrested on day 5 - C/P
    Genetic testing = normal, DNA Frag = excellent
    IVF #2 01/15 - Adding PICSI to the mix and possibly a long Lupron protocol?
     
  • Just a few, and that's really only been the last few months. Our immediate family and a few close friends. My DH is very private, so most of the updates are provided by me. For the most part, our families have been as supportive/sensitive as could be expected...I don't really expect for them to fully understand how we feel.

    ~TTC#1 Since July 2011~ 
    Dx: Fibroids & Tubal Infertility
                                                        9/12 -IVF#1 =BFN; 5/14 -IVF#2=BFP:-) EDD 2.19.2015                                                

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  • I have one close friend who I told and I am glad I have someone to share everything with aside from all my fellow bumpies! I didn't want to share with family and friends because we are fairly private anyway, but I didn't want to deal with the stress of people asking a million questions while we were going through the process. LOL I knew my mom and MIL would've driven me nuts!!!

    Sometimes I wish I was totally open about everything when I do need support, but I am so glad I have this board for that. When we started our first IVF I did start a private blog documenting everything, which I will share with our families and close friends when the time comes.

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    TTC#1 since 4/11 : m/c in 9/11 & 11/11
    DH dx with Balanced Translocation 5/12 
    Did 3 IVFs - 10/12, 1/13 & 4/13 before
    1 embryo passed PGD and transferred - BFP
    Our beautiful baby girl has arrived!
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  • My parents, ILs, and siblings know. My boss also knows because I need to be late for work sometimes, take time off, etc. and I found out she had her daughter through IVF, so she TOTALLY gets it and is so supportive and understanding. I seriously couldn't ask for a better situation there!

    I get unsolicited advice/comments from my ILs especially. My FIL is a know-it-all and is very religious and says stuff all the time about "when it's God's will it will happen" - I just roll my eyes most of the time and try not to let it bother me, but one time it really bothered me (stupid hormones) I actually told him to never say that to me ever again, that it was cruel and didn't help and since then he's kept his mouth shut. My SIL also got KU the first month she tried and is now I believe trying for #2, so just my luck she'll be KU again before I'm pregnant with #1, so she has absolutely no idea and has said to me on numerous occasions to hump it out, uh huh, wish it were that easy! Bottom line is that I'm glad I told my close family members because the majority of the time they've been very supportive, but I was also prepared for the unsolicited stupid comments, which I can't let get to me. Since I don't let them bother me most of the time, I'm glad my family knows so we're not completely alone with this.

    I will not tell anyone except my mom and sister our exact ER and ET dates though and will probably fib about the beta date because I don't want to have to let everyone down if it's a BFN and couple days to get used to it ourselves before we tell anyone.

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  • I will add that NO ONE knows we're MFI and they assume that it's a female issue and I'm okay with that.

    Me- 32, DH- 32- TTC for 4 Years
    IUIs 1-6 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP- M/C
    FET- Beta#1: 69, #2: 482, #3: 1088, #4: 28,318, Ultrasound- 1 beautiful heartbeat
    It's a boy!

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  • I am glad to hear I am not alone in this, but I am sorry that some of you are dealing with the same things. It got to the point with my little sister that I once told her should would find out when this all worked and that I didn't want to talk to her about it anymore. I try not to let the things that are said bother me, but sometimes my hormones get the best of me!
    Me - 35 DH - 37 SD - 10
    Married 10/8/2011
    Started TTC July 2011. Infertility workup July & August 2012.

    DH - all clear. Me - Unicornuate Uterus discovered at HSG 8/16/12. Referred for IVF 8/28/12. Approved for IVF Warranty Program 10/2/12. Laparoscopy 11/1/12 - removed right rudamentary horn, both tubes, left ovarian cyst and endometriosis.
    Given all clear for pregnancy after 1/1/2013.


    IVF cycle 1 starts 1/19/13!

    12 eggs, 7 mature and all 7 fertilized - 2 Frosties!!

    5 day SET 2/4/13 - Beta 2/13: 86 & 2/15: 186 BFP!!!!

    EDD: October, 23, 2013



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  • We have been pretty open about it the past 6 months or so...mainly due to the fact that we hated hearing the "when will you have kids" question over and over again.  It does spread...so just be prepared for that.

    We told DH's parents and asked them not to say anything to anyone as it was our business to tell.  A few months later we got a card in the mail from his aunt saying she was sorry to hear about my aunt's sudden passing and sorry that we were having trouble getting PG.  WHAT?? DH was so pissed that he called his mom right away.  Turnes out she told her entire side of the family. So even if you ask someone not to say anything, they will.  It's frustrating and I believe it is our business to tell people.

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    DX - Severe DOR, Stage II Endo
    6 rounds medicated TI, 3 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs
    After nearly 4 years of trying, our 1st BFP on IVF #3 (5R, 3M, 3F, 3 day 5 blasts frozen) 
    FET - Beta #1 - 116, Beta #2 - 266!! 1st U/S on 10/6 - HB 121 and measuring perfectly! EDD 5/30/15

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  • That is part of the reason we decided to be open about it with everyone - then they could get the upsdates straight from us and we knew people wouldn't be able to keep their mouths shut! Everyone loves good gossip...
    Me - 35 DH - 37 SD - 10
    Married 10/8/2011
    Started TTC July 2011. Infertility workup July & August 2012.

    DH - all clear. Me - Unicornuate Uterus discovered at HSG 8/16/12. Referred for IVF 8/28/12. Approved for IVF Warranty Program 10/2/12. Laparoscopy 11/1/12 - removed right rudamentary horn, both tubes, left ovarian cyst and endometriosis.
    Given all clear for pregnancy after 1/1/2013.


    IVF cycle 1 starts 1/19/13!

    12 eggs, 7 mature and all 7 fertilized - 2 Frosties!!

    5 day SET 2/4/13 - Beta 2/13: 86 & 2/15: 186 BFP!!!!

    EDD: October, 23, 2013



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    I will add that NO ONE knows we're MFI and they assume that it's a female issue and I'm okay with that.

     

    Same here. That is my DH's news to tell if he wants to and he doesn't want to share it so I'm definitely not going to say anything. 

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    DS born on 9/30/13 from IVF #1.2!
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  • We've gotten progressively more liberal about who knows.  We decided to tell our immediate families after we got referred to a urologist and knew DH would need surgery.  They get the highlights, but nobody knows exact treatment plans until after the fact.  

    At work my boss and two close colleagues know; they help cover for me.  The rest of my co-workers are clueless.  Everyone at DH's office knows.

    Socially it started out with only two couples that we're really close to knowing.  But again, the longer it goes on, the more people we come out to.  At this point DH breaks the vas surgery out as a drunk bar story for people we hardly know- "My balls were the size of grapefruits!"  "The scars made my nuts look like a giant pause sign!"  Yup, that's how he copes.

    The part I struggle with most is straddling the two worlds- half out, half closeted.  It's weird that when we can make it into a joke and tell almost anyone, but there are still some close family and friends that I just can't fathom telling.  Does that makes any sense?

    TTC since August 2010
    DH diagnosed with Azoospermia in January 2012
    Vas reconstruction surgery in April 2012; unsuccessful

    IVF with ICSI February 2013; single blastocyst 5dt
    First beta March 1 is 147!!!

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  • My parents don't know about our IF struggle. I am Hmong and don't think my parents would understand this IF stuff. Typically the Hmong have very large families and no problems TTC. I myself come from a family of 8 kids and my older bro has 3 kids and older sis has 4. That being said, if any of my older, ignorant relatives knew they would say the reason was because I married someone who wasn't Hmong.

    DH's mom knows. His dad doesn't parents are divorced. My principal does as well and she's been supportive. No one else knows.
  • Pretty much everyone knows but not everyone talks about it. The only people left that haven't a clue (at least as far as I know) are the grandparents.
    Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL       DH: 32, Nothing 
    NTNP 2009-2012         TTC since 2012:
    • Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
    • FET #1   August 2013 = BFP!     EDD 5/11/14
    • Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
    • Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
    • FET #2 --July 2014  BFP!  ---  EDD  4/5/15

    Jack has handpicked his sibling up there :)

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  • I am very very open with my life. I try to be respectful since DH and I are in this together, and dealing with MFI, I asked him 1st. All my friends know, mom, sil, Godfather, and now whole world because I outed myself NYE, that I was so glad to have survived  2012 and still be standing with miscarriage,failed fertility cycles, loss of job. It was so dang freeing, and it will avoid people asking dumb ass questions, or making comments. Plus I saw SO many people talking about their pregnancies on FB, all day long with pics, so I wanted to show the flip side of it.

    THis is why I share, so many people even in church do not talk about Infertility, like it is a shame or embarrassment, I thought if someone could see my struggle, and that I was still keeping my joy it could bless them.I had people come to me and reach out stating that they were so proud of me, and that my testimony was encouraging.

    This 3rd round I will only tell a few people I am cycling, and no one will know beta date, but like 3 people. I hate having to explain when things do not work out. It is nice getting the support though. Hugs to everyone, we are some brave ladies! I am with Jewels, only a few know it is MFI, because they assume my issue, which is fine. I just wanted to raise awareness on FB.

     

    Married BF 6/29/2002/
    TTC Since Aug 2011/
    ME:34 all clear/DH:41 DX Severe MFI/
    IVF w/ICSI OCT 2012 Stims started 10/8/ER 10/19/12/ET 10/24/Beta#1 11/2=BFN (beta was 1.2)

    IVF 2.0-Baseline 11/7/12 beta 0/All Clear
    Stim start 11/7/12//ER 11/19 11M//10F
    ET 2 embies 11/24//Beta#1 28 Beta #2 23 Beta#3 29
    stop meds Beta#4 37/C/P 5W5D EDD:8/12/13/IVF#3 in Jan

    Ivf 3-frozen 3 poor 3day/fet=bfn

    Ivf#4 New dr. New protocol=beta1 197 beta#2 677 beta#3 1557
     u/s 8/13 =TWINS 2 strong hb
    Due Date 4/4/14

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  • We just recently shared it with my parents and a few very close friends.  It was a relief to share our struggles (and the reason why we've been tight on money and heavy on emotions).  But, now I worry every time I talk to them, they will bring it up.  Sometimes I just don't want to talk about it (considering how much I think about it already).  This is new, so perhaps it will pass.  If not, I'll probably just let them know that I'd prefer to bring it up whenever I want to talk about it.

    My TTC Journey:
    Dx: Hypothalamic amenorrhea / mild PCOS (Pretty much a hormone/ovulatory disorder)
    Progesterone to induce period w/ the goal of Clomid - never got period (September 2011). Referred to RE.
    Femera - never responded to the meds (December 2011)
    Clomid with TI - BFN (February 2012)
    Injectables (Menopur) - hyperstimulated/canceled (March 2012)
    Injectables #2 (Menopur) with TI- BFN (May 2012)
    IVF - OHSS (transfer canceled), but 11 frozen! (June 1012)
    FET - 1 transferred on 8/09/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 350.3; Beta#2: 365; Beta#3: 157. Biochemical pregnancy.
    FET # 2 - 1 transferred on 11/01/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 337; Beta#2: 769. BFP!!! 1st ultrasound 11/28/12 showed heartbeat, but measuring 5 days behind. 2nd ultrasound 12/05/12 - miscarriage.
    FET # 3 - 1 transferred on 1/24/13. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): BFN.
    FET # 4 - 2 transferred on 3/21/13.  Bet #1 (11dp5dt): 660; Beta#2: 1,300.  Miscarried at home @ 6 weeks.

    FET # 5 - 2 transferred on 7/12/13.  Beta #1 (10dp6dt): BFN.
    Attempted an IUI in late August 2013, but didn't respond well.
    IVF #2 with PGS - Stims started 10/28 with retrieval on 11/11.  Of 14 mature eggs, 10 fertilized, 4 made it to Day 5 & 1 made it to Day 6. We did PGS on the Day 5 embryos, and 3 of 4 were normal. Had ET on 11/17. Beta #1 (8dp6dt): 203. Beta #2 (10dp6dt): 618. We since had two ultrasounds & on 12/19, our RE released us to the OB.  On 1/02/14, we had our first ultrasound with the OB where we heard the heartbeat.  We are so thankful for the blessing & crossing every finger & toe for a healthy & successful pregnancy.

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  • I've been pretty open with my family and close friends, my DH mentioned it to his family just before Christmas, but we've shared very few details with them.  

    I'm not as annoyed about sharing information or unsolicited advice as I am with people acting like they know how it feels or what I'm going through.  They have no idea.

    TTC since 9/2011

    IVF #3 w/ICSI = 9/2013 = BFP!   Beta #1 9/9: 79, Beta #2 9/12: 441

    EDD: 5/20/14

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  • My parents, best friends, and co-workers know about it. All they knew about was IVF # 1, which was a fail. We did not tell anyone abut our FET or give any updates, so as far as they are concerned they think we are simply taking a break from it all. We don't talk about it with pretty much anyone but each other. There is one person at work I confide in about the latest (because she is currently an egg donor and gets what I"m going through) and my SIL who is an RN nurse and can understand my medical terminology. In my opinion, it was too much pressure to tell everyone everything...especially bad news.
    Married for 3 years to the love of my life! TTC for over a year. Started seeing RE in April 2012. Lap in July revealed endo covering left ovary and part of my bowels. This will require extensive surgery by a specialist. RE wants us to have babies first because surgery could compromise my ability to carry. Started first round of IVF in August. Ten follies retrieved, eight fertilized, two frosties.


    IVF #1= C/P
    *Frozen Embie Transfer scheduled for end of Nov/Dec. Going to transfer 2 frosties if all goes according to plan*

    FET # 1 [12/18]: Transferred two "beautiful" embies.

    Beta # 1: 126 [BFP!]

    Beta # 2: 546

    Beta #3: 1618!!

    Beta # 4 - 4954!!!!!!
    Ultrasound 1/18 - Two heartbeats at 121 and 136. Fraternal twins!
    Um, is this really happening?!


    "The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped." Psalm 28:7



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  • It's a delicate balance, for sure, between getting the support you need and making sure that your privacy is protected.

    Sometimes I wish we'd told no one but I'm also a very open person, as is DH. We couldn't have kept it a total secret (and I don't know that we would have wanted to) but I do regret telling as many people as we have. It's tiring to get the questions about how things are going, especially when they're not going very well. No one knows how to respond and they often say dumb or weird things. 

    I also agree with the PP that even if you tell one person, that one person will definitely tell more people so you might just wind up with the gossip situation anyway. GL!


  • Hm, let's see - my mom and his mom know.  He wanted to tell his mom.  My two closest girlfriends know, but only after I asked DH if it was okay to tell them.  A few people at work know, but they are people I am close to and I really wanted them to know because when absences start piling up, I needed some people to squelch the rumors.  Oh, and my HR director knows because I had to discuss pending absences with him and it was easiest to just be honest.

    I sometimes feel like too many people know, but DH and I have been trying for 19 months and many people knew that and we get the questions all the time.  It's not something for us to be embarrassed about - it is what it is and we will make whatever we end up doing work for us.

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    Married 7-16-10; TTC since July 2011
    Me - 34; DH - 35
    Dx: Unexplained Azoo; all blood work normal (including chromosomal abnormality screens); no blockages; 2 SAs with zero sperm, TESA/TESE - no sperm found, likely never produced
    Therapeutic Donor Insemination - DONOR CHOSEN!!!!
    Natural Cycle IUI 9/3/13... 9/18/13 - BFP!!!!  Stick baby stick!
    Beta #1 9/19 (16dpiui) 144 hCG; 19.6 progesterone - Crinone to increase levels; Beta #2 9/23 (20dpiui) 705 hCG; 19.6 progesterone - continue Crinone; Beta #3 9/30 (27dpiui) 8355 hCG; 16.1 progesterone - continue Crinone
    U/S #1 10/8 Awesome ultrasound!  1 healthy, growing little bean.  H/R 128bpm, measuring 6 weeks, 6 days!; U/S #2 10/21 Just as awesome!  H/R 179bpm, measuring 8 weeks 6 days!; Surprise U/S #3 10/28 - still moving along!  Measuring 9 weeks 5 days; 12 week U/S & NT Scan 11/13/13: one wiggly, jumpy, kicking, punching, thumb sucking little bean!!!  Scan looks good, normal measurements.  :)  H/R 170 bpm; 12/11: Doppler registered H/R at 150 bpm; 12/20: Underlying Chronic Hypertension - Methyldopa to control BP; 1/2/2014 - It's a boy!!!!  Everything looks awesome!
    EDD - May 27, 2014
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    My parents don't know about our IF struggle. I am Hmong and don't think my parents would understand this IF stuff. Typically the Hmong have very large families and no problems TTC. I myself come from a family of 8 kids and my older bro has 3 kids and older sis has 4. That being said, if any of my older, ignorant relatives knew they would say the reason was because I married someone who wasn't Hmong. DH's mom knows. His dad doesn't parents are divorced. My principal does as well and she's been supportive. No one else knows.
    I am not going to even lie to you, I had to look up Hmong, yaay for the 15 minute educating goodle search. <3

    Don't you love it when family says crazy things like( it is because he is not Hmong) ugh. We got oh you will have no problem because my husband is puerto rican, so they think we should have 20 no promblem. Big hugs <3

    Married BF 6/29/2002/
    TTC Since Aug 2011/
    ME:34 all clear/DH:41 DX Severe MFI/
    IVF w/ICSI OCT 2012 Stims started 10/8/ER 10/19/12/ET 10/24/Beta#1 11/2=BFN (beta was 1.2)

    IVF 2.0-Baseline 11/7/12 beta 0/All Clear
    Stim start 11/7/12//ER 11/19 11M//10F
    ET 2 embies 11/24//Beta#1 28 Beta #2 23 Beta#3 29
    stop meds Beta#4 37/C/P 5W5D EDD:8/12/13/IVF#3 in Jan

    Ivf 3-frozen 3 poor 3day/fet=bfn

    Ivf#4 New dr. New protocol=beta1 197 beta#2 677 beta#3 1557
     u/s 8/13 =TWINS 2 strong hb
    Due Date 4/4/14

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  • I have always been open about a lot of different struggles and this was no different. I have been able to change people's minds about what they thought they knew. I have also learned how many other people have dealt with this. It stopped the annoying questions about when we are going to start a family. The hardest times were during actual treatments. I kept my first two rounds of Ivf very quiet. People knew we had plans for it, but as a teacher with summers off, I was able to sneak off to doctor appointments easily. This third Ivf was tough, it was after the school year started and I had to take some time off so I told everyone. Of course everyone wanted to know how it went. I shared that I didn't want to talk about it either way for a few weeks just to give me time, of course then I already knew it was successful, but told everyone else we didn't know and don't want to share. I lasted about 2 weeks, finally shared with everyone at 6 weeks and then sadly had to share of the loss at 9 weeks. The support has been nice but you can't stop other people from talking about it when you don't feel like it. It's a double edge sword when people know. I will be keeping more to myself, I hope, from now on. It is nice to have people care or even be curious, but difficult when it is a time you don't want to talk or share.

    I'm 33 DH is 36 
    Married 6/27/2009 Together since 10/22/2005
    TTC since 8/2010 (off BCP since 8/2009) 
    Unexplained Infertility
    8/2011, 1/2012, 3/2012 IUI #1-3 BFN 
    6/2012 IVF#1 BFN, 8/2012 IVF#2 FET BFN, 11/2012 IVF#3 BFP
    12/10/2012 U/S #1 6w4d - heartbeat  EDD 8/1/13 
    12/26/2012 U/S #2 8w6d - No more heartbeat, MMC; D&C; Chromosome testing normal; male :( RPL testing normal 
    4/3/2013 DX Asherman's Syndrome caused by D&C, hysteroscopy done
    June 2013 IVF #4 planned 
    5/12/2013 SURPRISE BFP! Natural cycle 
    7/11/2013 Panorama results Normal!!! Team Pink, partial previa moved up in 2nd tri
    9/5/13 (19w) AS scan shows short cervix, 2.5 cm 9/19 (21w)  Cervix is worse 1.87cm, bed rest 
    10/26 & 10/27 steroid shots 
    12/19 (35w) DX: SGA Baby went from 57% percentile to 18th percentile in 6 weeks. Weekly BPP and NST until she is here. 
    1/17/18 Growth scan puts Abby below 10th percent in size, low amniotic fluid, and less movement. Time to induce!

    1/18/14 2:11am Abigial Morgan is here! 5lbs 14oz and 18 inches of pure cuteness!!!

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  • We told absolutely NO ONE. We really want to protect our privacy, should we not be successful with IVF. I don't want to disappoint our family, and I don't believe that most people can keep other people's secrets. So I don't give anyone the opportunity to share our most personal issues or feel sorry for me. This is comfortable for me. I know that's not the way everyone feels. It also makes me grateful I have bumpies to share with!

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    My BLOG: www.ivfbabyquest.wordpress.com -Update - old blog.

    PAIF/SAIF Welcome!
    Me: 42, Hubby: 35, TTC since Jan 2010. Dx: DOR due to advanced maternal age. Also: Hypothyroidism (100mcg Levothyroxin). Positive for MTHFR (hetero-C677T), Factor V Leiden, and Fragile X (on DH side). Taking pre-natal vitamins
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    First natural PG 9/27/11; mc: 1/20/12

    First RE visit: 8/8/12, Saline Sonogram: 8/28/12, IVF injection class: 10/11/12, add FaBB Tab for FVL, +Vitamin D.
    IVF #1: 10/17/12 Baseline: FSH- 9.4, E2- 24, LH- 3.7, Prog- 0.3 The u/s showed 6 follicles in my right  & 9 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 10/21/12: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning.
    ER 10/28/12: 13 Retreived. 7 Mature. 6 Fertilized. 5 Made it to PGS. ET 11/2/12: CANCELED. All 5 came back from PGS as having "severe abnormalities."
    IVF #2: 1/7/13 Baseline: FSH- 8.8, 4 follicles in my right & 6 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 1/11/13: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning. hCG Trigger 1/16/13

    ER 1/18/13: 9 Retrieved. 5 Mature. 5 Fertilized. 2 Made it to PGS. ET 1/23/13: CANCELED. All embryos (he even sent the ones not growing) came back from PGS as having "multiple severe abnormalities."
    IVF #3:
    NEW RE! 3/1/13 Baseline: FSH- 9.6, E2- 61, Prog- 0.94, 3 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle& 150 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/7/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 3/9/13 SQ.
    ER 3/11/13: 6R, 2M, 2F. Day 3: one 8 cell, grade 0.  Five day ET 3/16/13: one early blast, grade Fair. 3/24/13 AF came a day before beta. BFN

    IVF #4: 
    (Added acupuncture to this cycle.) 3/25/13 WTF & Baseline: FSH-11.8, E2- 56, Prog- 0.84 3/26/13 Start stims. 3/30/13 u/s: 5 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 225 Bravelle& 225 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/31/13 Add Ganirelix SQ in AM.hCG Trigger 4/3/13 SQ.
    ER 4/5/13: 5R, 3M, 3F naturally. Day 3: two 8 cell, grade 0, one 8 cell, grade 2 (Scale 0-best to 3-worst). Five day ET 4/10/13: two blastocysts (the 3rd stopped growing.) Beta 4/18/13: 2.5 BFFN. RE recommends we stop trying and focus on living childless, due to the extremely poor quality of my eggs.
    ***Decided to stop trying and live CFNBC. I couldn't adjust. So, six months later...

    IVF #5: Changed RE. Going to one of the big name clinics now. OWDU: 10/29/13. Update: HORRIBLE experience. Disgusted and distraught at their complete unprofessionalism and how much money and precious time they cost us. Sickening. Have now changed RE again. New Patient appt. 1/30/14.
    BFP! Out of nowhere, I got KU the old fashioned way! POAS 1/26/14 - Positive! FDLM 12/30/13. Beta #1 16dpo= 373. Beta #2 18dpo= 801. EDD 10/6/14
    2/4/14 1st U/S revealed a 5wk2day sac but no fetal pole. Started 200mgs of progesterone suppositories daily
    2/11/14 2nd U/S revealed a perfect 6wk1day "diamond ring" embryo with a beating heart! 138bpm! Add 1mg folic acid and 40mg Lovenox
    2/25/14 3rd U/S: perfect 8w1d embryo, 178bpm. 3/6 start spotting. 3/11 10w1d U/S shows no heartbeat. Scheduling D&C. The Stork has forsaken me again.
    IVF #5.2: New in-state RE. Supplement priming for 1.5 cycles prior to start of cycle, including DHEA 50mg (stopped 5/15), CoQ10 200mg 2x/day, L-Arginine- 1000mg 2x/day (stopped 6/5 due to cold sore!), myo-inositol- 2g 2x/day, melatonin- 3mg, and Neevo (prenatal for MTHFR).
    5/16/14 Day 2 bw cycle prior: FSH- 12.22, E2- 38.37, Prog- 1.35, LH- 9.46. 6/2/14 Day 19 bw: Prog- 23
    6/12/14 Baseline: E2- 122.7, Prog- 0.4. 5 follicles in left, 4 follicles in right. Start stims: 375IU Follistim & 150IU Menopur. 6/19 Increase Follistim to 425IU, Menopur still 150IU. 6/18 add Ganirelix. 6/23 Ovidrel trigger SQ. 6/25 ER: 8R, 8M, 5F naturally. Start Medrol & Doxy. 6/26 Start Endometrin. 7/2 Start Lovenox.
    7/8/14 Beta= 137.4 BFP!!! (My first from IVF!) E2- 1109, Prog- >60. Stop CoQ10, myo-inositol, and melatonin. 7/9 2nd Beta= 281.4. TSH- 2.70. Increasing Synthroid to 100mcg daily. 7/24 6w3d u/s measured 6w3d, hb: 121bmp! 8/5 8w1d u/s measured 8w3d, hb: 164bpm! Graduated from RE to OB. Now I just need to find an OB!
    EDD 3/18/15!

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    I am very very open with my life. I try to be respectful since DH and I are in this together, and dealing with MFI, I asked him 1st. All my friends know, mom, sil, Godfather, and now whole world because I outed myself NYE, that I was so glad to have survived  2012 and still be standing with miscarriage,failed fertility cycles, loss of job. It was so dang freeing, and it will avoid people asking dumb ass questions, or making comments. Plus I saw SO many people talking about their pregnancies on FB, all day long with pics, so I wanted to show the flip side of it.

    THis is why I share, so many people even in church do not talk about Infertility, like it is a shame or embarrassment, I thought if someone could see my struggle, and that I was still keeping my joy it could bless them.I had people come to me and reach out stating that they were so proud of me, and that my testimony was encouraging.

    This 3rd round I will only tell a few people I am cycling, and no one will know beta date, but like 3 people. I hate having to explain when things do not work out. It is nice getting the support though. Hugs to everyone, we are some brave ladies! I am with Jewels, only a few know it is MFI, because they assume my issue, which is fine. I just wanted to raise awareness on FB.

    Bless you:-)


    ~TTC#1 Since July 2011~ 
    Dx: Fibroids & Tubal Infertility
                                                        9/12 -IVF#1 =BFN; 5/14 -IVF#2=BFP:-) EDD 2.19.2015                                                

    S/PAIF Welcome 





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  •  Sorry your sister is so rude and doesn't understand your struggles =(

    Were starting to talk about our TTC issues, I started bugging DH for a baby a year after we were married (11 Years ago). And when it didn't happen naturally and I was diagnosed with PCOS I just kept it to myself. I tried to be happy for friends who were having kids but it was hard. We finally got better insurance that allowed us to see a REI and since July 2011. My Mom knows we have had issues as she is also my boss so she knows when I see the doctor and has asked questions about the problems I have. She helps us as our insurance only covers 50% of the cost which is a big help. Beyond that Mother in Law knows because she lives with us and asks how the appointments go but tries to give advice which I wish she wouldn't like reminding me after each US that her sister was on Clomid for 13 months before she had her daughter 26 years ago. DH's sister is just down right rude and doesn't understand because she told me "Time to see the doctor then I guess" and "you guys can have mom live with you since you don't have kids". She poped out 4 kids so one after another and doesn't understand infertility even though most of her friends had such a hard time to conceive one child. Generally we don't say much especially after my Brother got all butt hurt because I didn't want to do my Trigger shot on the side of the road in some bathroom on Christmas Eve and take the chance of throwing away $200 that we spent on the shot if something happened to it. One of my friends I have known for 27 years I've started to tell her a little as she is due with her second baby and is sympathetic. 

    Me: 31 DH: 33 Married : 12 Years going on 16 years together TTC since 9/2001 11/2012 100 MG Clomid 12/2012 200 MG Clomid: IUI 12/26 2 Week Wait Praying for a miracle
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