I had my DS on December 14th, and I would have to say that it took about one whole week for people to start giving me unwanted advice/opinions, which is longer than I thought I would go.
First, I planned to EBF my baby from the very beginning. This, however, didn't happen. For reasons unbeknownst to me, I have made very little milk, no matter what I tried. Milk came in and almost as soon as it came, it went. No amount of pumping would help. Also, baby was on the small side and had a hard time latching on (had to use nipple shields and such to even attempt BFing). This led to stress and the eventual supplementing of formula. Now that is all we give him. I feel completely terrible for it, but I'm happy he's gaining weight finally and is happy. I've been getting lots of opinions on this, like I am the worst person in the world or just lazy. I applaud women who are able to breastfeed their babies, simply because it didn't work out for me.
Then, my little one was born two weeks early weighing only 4 lbs, 14 ozs. When we left the hospital, he only weighed 4 lbs, 9 ozs. We were told we were lucky to even get to bring him home, but he was doing well so we could (this was disproved by a re-admit to the hospital two days later). Whenever anyone sees him now, I get "he's so tiny!" which doesn't bother me in the least. What bothers me is that the other day someone asked me if I ate while I was pregnant, because he was so little. This REALLY got to me for some reason. I already have felt like I have done something wrong since he was born so little, but thinking that people might think that makes me upset.
I know women have these problems all the time, but I hate not having anyone who really understands. Thanks for letting me rant a little bit. Reading what you guys are going through as well makes me feel a little better and less alone in all this!