Right off the bat I will say this is totally my fault because I KNOW I should take everything my MIL says with a grain of salt, but I can't help but being miffed anyways.
We live in a different city than both our families. MIL has constantly been saying she will come and stay when we have #2. She says this often. DH and I have been planning on having our second in the summer for a long time, so much so that we would casually ask MIL what her summer teaching schedule normally is just in case (she's a college prof). Anyways, she consistently said "first session, first session". We get pregnant on schedule and everything. Perfect timing, because the last day of first session is a couple days before when my planned section will be if I don't go into labor. Last week we tell her we are starting to work on a plan with friends and whatnot what we will do with DD if I go into labor and when would MIL be available to come and for how long. She says "I am teaching the first session and I can come for however long you need". Awesome. DH and I sit down that night and figure out an ideal timeline. The next day is CHristmas Eve and I am skyping with her, and she says nonchalantly "I am teaching the first and second sessions, May-end of June, and beginning of July-August." Um...what? I say, "Oh, because based on what you said before we thought you would be available for a longer period of time, etc...". Of course, it turns into a thing, and MIL's two best suggestions are 1) we fly to her city, with a newborn, a couple days after I give birth or have a section, and I stay at her house for 12 weeks or 2) she comes and gets DD#1 and takes her to MIL's house for 12 weeks. WHAT??? I get at a certain level that is generous, but really? I'm not really upset that she can't come, people work, I get it, I wouldn't have even asked her had she not mentioned it a bunch of times, and she always does this- she cannot be direct about something she thinks someone doesn't want to hear. Why can't she be direct EVER???? Argh. And then she emails DH and suggests that BIL should be the Godfather. I adore my BIL, he is awesome, but he doesn't believe in God. So....maybe not the best Godfather? Again, shouldn't become an issue, but BIL is gay and I KNOW she will make it about that, even though we pretty much just require our Godparents to at least believe in God, and I am seriously thinking she told BIL about her wishes so now we might hurt BIL's feelings, too. Oh MIL. I love her, I do, but I am SO FRUSTRATED!