Hi there, I was wondering about how your OB experience was and if you ever felt utterly disappointed. It has been 9 months since my beautiful daughter was born and still, sometimes, I can't help but feel really angered by the way in which my OB "handled" us. (I had no fairy tale like expectations of the birth process, I knew that it's all about surprises and wild cards) and here is why:
I "had" to be induced, since I reached 42 weeks and I hadn't dilated any. (Women in my family, we don't dilate at all until we are already laboring, told this to my doc) Everything with baby and I was absolutely fine, but OB didn't want to let us go to 43 weeks regardless. Reluctantly,I agreed to it.
Induction day came and I believe that I had a hypersensitive response to the increasing dose of pythocin. I was having terrible shakes and horrible pains. She kept increasing the dose and I got worse and worse in spite of my asking her to perhaps maintain the dose to see if my development got more stable. Long story short, I had to get an Epidural, my blood pressure dropped horribly and I got an Epinephrine drip to keep me from dropping even more. That's when baby's heart beat dissapears. Nurses rush in, we find her heart beat, it has become irregular, and high now. She's in distress. Through all this I'm cool, calm and collected, just observing and waiting. Once they "locate" the heart bit we just wait, concerned about another drop of her HR, doc and I agree to an emergency C-section. Since I was already on epidural they didn't knock me out completely and I was able to see my baby being born, which was great. Hubs and I are happy to see that all her vitals are perfect, AGPARs better than average even, etc.
Once the stitch me up, I hear the nurse filling up the paper work on the procedure: "Reason: fetal distress.." she gets interrupted by the OB who tells her to write instead " failure to progress". (Because after 8hrs I have "only" dilated to 5-6 cm, don't know what the rush was since no medical lit. tells you how long should be too long for a woman to dilate on pythocin, everyone responds diffrently and that's why docs are supposed to give/dose this med on a case to case basis, FYI ) The nurse does what she's told. AND I thought what a bunch of BS that was, that didn't seem ethical to me.
I wonder how many time these reasons for X or Y procedures done during labor are altered in such a way, so that the statistics/numbers for a certain practice/doctor "doesn't look bad"...at any rate, it all just felt wrong.
I'm glad I didnt have any complications with the operation, yet my recovery has been super long, stressful and painful. I really do not wish a repeat of this whole situation, and I wanted to ask you all, have you ever felt this way? Do you do something about it? Sometimes I feel like writing to the hospital admin. about it, sometimes like I should start a lawsuit, sometimes like I should just let it all go and forget about it; so that's why I ask, to see if you can help me shed some light on to this matter.