Somedays I am just not sure if I can deal with my SIL!!!!! I have never in my life met a more bossy, bitchy, know it all pain in my @ss person!!! She got pregnant with both of her daughters "by accident" and never had to TTC so she has zero idea what its like to TTC or be infertile.
So 2weeks ago my MIL was telling DH and I that DH's cousin and his wife were having trouble TTC #2 (they have been trying for 2 years) and they were going to a fertility dr. About 3 days later DH saw his cousin and said something to him about our IF issues and his cousin said "Oh your mom didnt tell you, we are 3 months pregnant!"
So Christmas day I said to my MIL "BTW Lauren and Mike are pregnant!!! I guess you didnt know yet. Im so glad for them". To which my MIL replies, "I knew, I just didnt want to tell you and I thought you would feel better if you knew others were having trouble too." I was pissed off but I understood her reasoning behind it and just decided to let it go and told her Thank you for thinking of me.
Well........... In walks my pain in the @ss SIL and her big mouth. She proceedes to say to me..." You know Jenn its really not fair to us that we have to tip toe around telling you that other family members are pregnant. You should be happy for others and get over yourself. Just because someone else gets pregnant does not mean that they TOOK your baby from you. There is not a definite number of babies concieved. You'll get your turn. Maybe if you stop being so negative and jealous it will happen for you."
My first instinct was to just hit her!!! (In my head I did! lol!) I couldnt even respond. I didnt know what to say and I knew if I opened my mouth I would just sob uncontrolably. I have never once said that bc someone else got pregnant that they "took" my baby nor have I ever thought that. I have never been jealous of others pregnancies, but I have been envious because I wish that so much for DH and I.
I told DH and he said I should put his sister in her place and say something. But Im torn. DH doesnt want to get involved but I feel that its his sister and he should stick up for me and put her in her place with me. I know that this will cause WW3 because my SIL can do no wrong and Im sure my MIL will take her side and of course I will come out looking like the Evil IF Witch.
Im thinking maybe I shouldnt even say anything to her. The time has past and it is very very apparent that she does not understand IF or how it feels so I doubt she will get it anyway.
What would you do?