Long story short, DH informed my MIL that we'd hired a doula in the worst way. Instead of taking her to lunch or a separate one-on-one phone call, he brought it up in front of the entire family. Keep in mind that MIL has provided her thoughts on EVERYTHING from what breast pump to get, her irritation that we're not learning the gender, our registry, etc. Of course there were comments and I was offended at the response of my teenage SIL. 36 weeks pregnant, tired and frustrated with my husband, I sort of pulled a "it's time to go" an stormed out. Not my finest hour, but I've had it with the advice and comments.
The next morning I get a partially apologetic text from MIL, hubs texts her back telling her to stop with the commentary, just be a supportive grandmother, etc. They go back and forth, SIL then starts sending texts- it's a mess. I don't like that this has happened but on the other hand, it's almost a relief. So now neither of us want to go over there for Christmas and I'm fine with the much needed space. She seems to be more concerned with her own feelings and ego than with the fact that we are literally weeks away from having a baby.