So I need to rant about something and I know you'll all listen, but beware, its long! :)
My MIL, who is a really great woman and has been like a mother to me, has been lightly pressuring me to give D solids since he was 4 wks! She never BF and started giving Hubs cereal in his bottle at 4wks because "it filled him up." She feels that D eats so often and therefore, he's super hungry. I have explained to her many times that BF babies may eat more often compared to FF babies and that its perfectly normal. Every time she calls us, she asks, "Have you given him cereal yet?" I just tell her we're waiting and leave it at that.
We're visiting them now and we'll be here for about a month. Everyday she makes a comment about needing to start him on solids. Yesterday I walked in the kitchen and she and SIL were letting D lick off an orange. I guess I'm not upset that he tasted an orange but I'm scared where this is going. I laughed and mentioned that he obviously didnt like it and quickly whisked him away for "a diaper change." So today we went out to eat and I left D in his stroller at the table. When I came back MIL said she let him taste marinara sauce off her finger. I was in shock.
I've explained to her SO MANY TIMES that I understand it was normal back in the day to give babies solids so young but its not recommended anymore. I've also explained that we are planning to BLW. I brought the book with me and let her look through it. She was so excited but missed the part that I wanted to wait until around 6 months! Tonight she said she can't wait to make mashed potatoes to give D some at Christmas dinner.
I know I really need to stand up for myself and my son, but I just can't. My MIL is a Master Chief in the Navy and is a very intimidating (but loving) woman. I've always looked up to her so much that its hard for me to stand up to her. I would make Z do it but he's deployed and doesn't really need this added to his plate.
I guess I'm not really looking for advice bc I know what to do, its just hard for me to do it! But...then again, does anyone know a really nice and gentle way for me to tell her to LEAVE MY KID ALONE!?!?! :) Its not the end of the world and I'm so thankful for how she treats him but I'm afraid the next time I walk in the room she'll be feeding him pizza or something!