My very good friend just got engaged and is getting married a month after I am due. I happened to see her parents today and her mom asked me when I'm due. I told her and laughingly said "I guess both of my kids will have gone to weddings at a really young age since we had to bring DS1 to a wedding when he was about a month old as well." She sort of sneered at me. She is planning the wedding since my friend lives out of town and is a crazy control freak, we're talking scary crazy lady here (my friend knows this but has never said a negative thing about her mother).
There is no way I am leaving a one month old with anyone to be able to go to the wedding. To make things worse I think I might be in the wedding party. I know my friend would be ok with me bringing a newborn given the circumstances but her mother will cause problems.
Do I even bother bringing the subject up now since none of this is happening until July? Do I give my friend a heads up now? I know this is going to cause some serious stress in her life. Or, do I just show up with the baby on the day of and pretend I assumed I could bring them?
For what it's worth my parents and DH will also be attending the wedding as well as some of my other friends so there would be no shortage of people to hold the baby. I would just wear them a sling the way I did with DS at the 4 weddings he attended before 3mo. Obviously if the baby were making a fuss we would just leave and not let them interrupt things.