Some may remember some pretty serious issues going on with my 16 year old niece. She was released from the treatment facility last week and within a few days her Mom called and told me she had another panic attack. She did not cut but she told her Mom she felt like she was getting worse. I encouraged Mom to tell the psychiatrist that at their appointment the next day. I do not know whether she did. In talking with the Mom she asked if we could spend some time with my nephews 12 and 8 this weekend. I told her Sunday would be good for us and asked her to let us know where they would be and what time to pick them up/drop them back off etc. She said ok. That was Monday.
On Wednesday, BIL called DH and said that the younger nephew called and said they were coming on Sunday and he was excited. I immediately called Mom to work out details and got no reply. No reply until today Sat, where she snottily informed me that they are about an hour away from our house and she "can't bring them to us." The problem with that was that we are spending time with my brother who is home for Christmas from out of state. I am pretty sure that the kids were up there before today, just based on the logistics of the whole situation. She couldn't have called and told us this so we could have planned accordingly? As it turns out, DH drove all the way up there from my parents house almost a 2 hr trip altogether and is bringing them home to spend the night with us, go to church in the morning, and then spend time with their Dad. I am assuming he will have to take them all the way back up there tomorrow. It's just so frustrating because this has always been her pattern of behavior. Complain that the kids don't get to see us, say how hard everything is for her and them, and then make it impossible to actually see them or spend time with them, ignore any and all suggestions or assistance, and act really ungrateful when we attempt to do anything. It's just a sucky situation and my heart breaks for those kids.