I went ahead and did my "wifely duty" of scheduling a visit 4 hours away to see DH's grandparents. We rode with my ILs and left at 11am, visited for 2.5 hours and drove back all in one day.
Upon arriving, DH's (totally a.s.s.hat) grandmother gave DD a gift bag, looked me in the eye and said, "It has toys in it. Well, you can't control everything can you?" Thank you, MIL for complaining to your whole family about me...
We also had a lovely dinner conversation:
Grandmother: " I really like photos of Adelaide. She photographs very well."
Me: "Yes, she's very photogenic. She gets it from DH."
Grandmother: "I mostly like the ones of just her and DH..." Then she laughed.
I just love my ILs. They make my family seem so nice.