This year my husband and I decided to scale back on Christmas. This is partially out of necessity, but really we have said this every year since we've been married and somehow it just has always gotten out of hand fast. I have a fairly large family, and his is VERY large due to step-parents and their families. This year we spent about half on each person what we have in years past.
A few weeks ago my husband's stepmother asked him if he wanted to go in on a power tool that his dad was wanting. She told him how much it was going to cost and said we would split it three ways (also including my husband's sister). Fast forward to today, when we are supposed to be doing Christmas with his dad's family... his stepmom texted him this morning and said "your Dad's gift ended up being $x, so your share is $x and please bring it tonight if you can." The problem is, this is TWICE what she told us originally. It's well above what we spent on anyone else, and it's not the only thing he's getting from us, either.
I told him he needs to be straight with her and say, "we were prepared to pay $z, which is what you originally told us, and is about what we've spent on everyone else's gifts. Sorry, but we can't do $x." I even offered to talk to her myself, so it's not like I'm putting this on him. My husband is very non-confrontational, so he's hesitating (although he WANTS to tell her no). I absolutely know this is awkward, but she's the one that put us in this situation.
So, WWYD? If it matters, his stepmother is made of money, so this is not going to put her in a bind AT ALL.