I have now realized that I am very protective of you and the rest of the 212 girls. I wanted to jump in on your 8-13 FFFC post SO bad and defend you!! I completely agree with you and obviously you aren't going to dance around the issue of this pregnancy being a surprise with everyone else in the family just to spare her feelings over her "fertility issues".
Sorry for the quotes, but after watching a friend go through 2 years of trying and 2 rounds of ivf I have to roll my eyes at someone who calls 10 months of trying "fertility issues". Maybe it would be different if she still wasn't pregnant, but now that she has TWO children it is time to be happy with what she's got!