I had DS med-free at a free-standing birth center, and we had complications post-birth (hemmorage, transfer to hospital & NICU for infant breathing fast) but overall (before that) it was an amazing experience and I received great care there and really loved my mws. It was just that I was one of the very rare people to have to transfer. I also went there for one of my pregnancies afterward but it ended in a missed m/c so I had to transfer care to an OB anyway. After that, I just stayed with my OB for all my other pregnancies (all losses)
I don't think we are going back there for many reasons. I'm not that concerned about the uterine atony situation happening again, but I do have to keep in mind that if it happened before, and I was unlucky enough to go through all that, so it is possible to happen again. The main reasons I am considering staying with my OB/hospital is that 1. I don't want to drive the hour+ to each apt, which will be a lot harder now getting childcare for my little one, plus I know 2nd time labors generally go faster and I'm afraid I just won't make it in time. And 2. I really do trust my OB. She is very open to my ideas, and before I got pg we had discussed fertility options and what would happen with twins- she was okay with doing a breech extraction of baby B, for example. Besides that, she's always respectful of my questions and I really do think she'll be supportive.
My question is, not so much where should I birth, because I'm definitely leaning toward staying with my OB, but what do you really think I need this time around? I cannot afford to do too much. My options are: hypnobabies home study course, or getting a doula (and my old MW might even agree to act as a douula for us) but of course I'm wondering, as a second time mom, whose already had a med-free birth (12 hours, back labor, 9 1/2 pound baby) do I really *need" either of these? There's still a part of me that's very wary of the hospital, even though I know they are supportive of intermittent monitoring, laboring in the shower, and pushing however I want. I'm still scared of ending up with a c-section and I'd rather not have one with caring for a very energetic child at home, plus the risks. Input? Advice? TIA!
(sorry so long!)