Hi! I am 18w1d with my first, and the baby's father has been in a different city for work, so other than an emergency room visit at thanksgiving he hasn't been to anything dr/baby related. at 9w my dr found antibodies in my blood, and I have depended baby daddy to go get his blood tested for this so I wouldnt need an amnio. Kaiser (his primary) refused to cooperate because the test was technically for me and wasted weeks of our time saying they were running it but werent..dont even get me started on how pissed I still am with them. so at 16w we were running out of time for results and I faxed the blood order to a different lab he would have access to and he promised he went and had been checking up. monday my dr needed results-baby dad FINALLY comes out and says that lab had never heard of anti-cw and didnt know how to test for it so it never got done! now I have an amnio on the 4th, and have been beyond furious with him. he has asked to be there with me for the amnio (we will also be finding out the sex) and i cant decide if I want him there. That is a big let down to me that he as the father did not do everything he could have to prevent this. But should my resentment keep him from a once in a lifetime day?