I've been lurking on this board for several weeks, trying to learn as much as I can about adoption (you are all awesome and it's been a real education!). My husband and I have always thought we'd adopt as part of our larger plan to have children, but we've been ttc for a while now with only two miscarriages to show for it and have started to think maybe adoption should come sooner, rather than later in our family planning. Frankly, though, I am also a little terrified. Still.... I know the process can be a long one and I'd rather start going down the road than wait until it's too late (I'm 36, already older than I thought I would be as a new mother, but that's the way life goes).
...and a Question:
For those of you who have adopted and those who are in the process, what was the moment that made you decide to just go ahead and do it? When did the desire finally outweigh any fears you might have had? Where both you and your partner on the same page from the beginning or was one of you more on board? What was your first step?
I know everyone is different but I'm just curious. I only know one person who adopted in real life, and she's a relative of DH and will probably be a resource when I'm further in this process, but I'm not really comfortable asking her questions about it just yet.