Now that I've decided I'd like to have a natural birth (to the greatest extent possible) and have started doing my research, I asked my hubby if he would support me in that choice. He rather nonchalantly said, "Sure, I support you whatever you decide, even when you're calling me terrible names in the delivery room." *chuckles, walks off* This is not exactly reassuring: hubby is SUPER-squeamish, a bit of a germaphobe, and [to me] a bonafide hypochondriac. For all of our 5-year marriage, he has thrown things away that are perfectly fine (or cleanable) because he thinks they're dirty or bad, is convinced the minute he has even the tiniest scratchy throat that he's going to be sick for a week, and constantly admonishes me to see a doctor about every discomfort I ever complain about. Since I became pregnant, he's been determined to believe that all of my perfectly normal symptoms are dangerous. And finally, he has a crippling fear of blood and needles.
He's going to be an amazing father, but I don't kid myself that this guy is going to be remotely helpful in the delivery room. The MINUTE the doc or nurse recommends anything, he's going to start pressuring me to accept it, out of fear.
Anyway, last night I made the mistake of mentioning my desire for a natural birth to his mom (whom I love and who has three children of her own), and she started telling me about how I HAVE to have an IV, because the hospital won't let me drink anything(!), and I don't want to get dehydrated. DH immediately jumped on the bandwagon and started telling me how important it was for me to have an IV. He hasn't read a single word about labor yet.
I should explain that I'm not necessarily opposed to the IV as much as I don't like the idea that it's a non-negotiable, nor that I'll be prevented from drinking water during labor. So here's the practical part of this rant: what is your experience with IVs during labor, and do you get horribly dehydrated if you refuse them? Common hospital policies on drinking/eating? Any other helpful info.
At this point, I'm definitely getting a doula. I'm going to need backup.