I won't make this very long since I need help/advice ASAP on this matter. I could write a series of books (as I'm sure a lot of us could) on the baby mama drama my husband and I deal with on a daily basis with his ex wife.
My husband and his ex-wife have 2 children together. They have 50/50 custody of the kids and he has been paying her child support since they were divorced. She has been very sneaky with not reporting jobs to Friend of the Court the entire time so he has been paying more than he should.
My husband recently lost his job and we went back to court to finally get it re-adjusted. He went from paying her $200/mo to now receiving $255/mo from her. Needless to say this has REALLY MADE HER MAD. Funny thing about it, we never wanted her money. We tried to mutually agree to reduce what we were paying her to $100/mo while he was unemployed but she wanted nothing to do with it. So we let the court figure it out and it was in our favor.
So the NEWEST bit of drama is this... they switch their parenting time half way through the school week. So legally on paper, their BM has them Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday until 9am. This is when my husband's parenting time starts 9am Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. The flip-flop every other weekend day (Saturday and Sunday) which brings the total to 50/50.
When they established this parenting schedule, the kids weren't in school yet but I don't think either one of them realized what a pain in the butt the mid-week switch would be. So their BM takes them to school Wednesday morning (starting bell is 9:04am). The kids are in Kindergarten and 1st grade this year. SINCE the switch in the child support order, their BM has decided to have the kids buy hot lunch on Wednesdays. She does this because she knows that since we are the ones that registered them for school, this account is linked to us and not her. So every week, we get calls about their lunch account being in the negative balance (which works like a "charge" card) and then WE are responsible for paying it.
Well, today, the school called us to let us know they cancelled the lunch account because of this negative balance. The kids must now bring lunch on Wednesday or bring $2.60 to buy lunch, but they can no longer CHARGE it to their account. So he let their BM know this to ensure that they have a lunch at school tomorrow. They have now been texting back and forth and she is standing firm that she will NOT be sending the kids to school with lunch or money for hot lunch on Wednesday since legally on paper, it is his parenting day. She told him that he will be responsible for dropping a lunch or lunch money off at school for them every Wednesday.
I guess my question is... is this even RIGHT?! Is it written in some book that because Wednesday is my husband's day that he has to drop off their lunch to them? Or should it be their BM responsibility to send them off into the world prepared for the day?! She told him that it would be his fault if the kids didn't have lunch tomorrow and that she is refusing to pack one! So since it is no longer her parenting time after 9:00am, would she send the kids to school naked expecting my husband to provide them clothes, too?!
She is obviously being very spiteful and bitter. She has always packed them lunch on Wednesdays, without question, until the court didn't side in favor of her. I am terrified that she WON'T be sending them lunch tomorrow, as she promised, so we plan on at least dropping some money off at the school in the morning just in case she follows through on her threat. How should we handle this in the future? Are we in the right? Or in the wrong? It makes me sick to my stomach that she can't just be normal and put the kids first. IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT THE KIDS and she has mastered the art of making it all about her. Thanks in advance for your help!