Everyone here was so lovely and welcoming, I just wanted to check back and let you know I had both of my boys evaluated. They are both speech delayed and I was worried about some other stuff with my younger one. The 18 month old doesn't say any words at all, doesn't point, doesn't wave, doesn't ask for/demand things. The big boy (2.5) passed all areas with a delay in speech, but not one they feel needs intervention. The little one passed everything except communication. Based on what the evaluator saw and what the pedi checked, it's his hearing. Now that the idea has been put in my head, I feel silly for not noticing sooner. So we're seeing an ENT in a few weeks and we'll see from there what needs to be done. I feel awful that he has gone this long without hearing while we made no effort to help him, but right now I'm focusing on the positive, which is that we are moving in the right direction. We are keeping our fingers crossed for an easy fix, but we'll do whatever we have to do to help him.
So thank you, thank you, thank you for nudging me to make the call. Who knows how long I would have waited and how much time we would have wasted.