I'm sorry of this is a bit long winded. I'm just trying to decide if this is a big enough deal where I should consider changing doctors, or if I'm just being too sensitive. Maybe other moms can share what made them decide to change their doctor.
So, I went in for my second ultrasound today. I had my first one at 6 weeks, because I was spotting and worried, so she had me come in early. I had my second one today, at 9 weeks.
At the first appointment she was perfectly nice, but didn't really answer any of my questions. I asked her why I was spotting every time I have a bowel movement (TMI, sorry) and she said it was because I was constipated (I'm not at all) or dehydrated (I drink about 100 oz. of water a day). I'm okay with her saying "I have no idea, it just happens sometimes", but I guess it just bothers me when people make assumptions without getting all the information. When my DH asked when it would be safe to announce it on facebook (we have a lot of out-of-town family), she answered with, "Never. There are just too many haters [her word] out there." Maybe I'm being judgmental myself, but I'm 34 not 14. I'm not a big fan of the word "haters" being used in an adult conversation with my doctor. And how in the world would someone we considered our friend or family bash us on facebook because we announced we were expecting?
So today was my second appointment. DH was out of town on business so I went alone. My OB just got a new ultrasound machine and there was a lady (some rep. from the company) in the room with us, teaching my OB how to use it. It's a little awkward getting a trans-vaginal ultrasound while people talk over your head and ignore you. I tried to ask a couple of questions and my doctor was a little dismissive. I guess I'm just really nervous and need a lot of reassurance. I'm not normally passive or soft-spoken, but I felt weirdly vulnerable and uncomfortable during my appointment.
I had to ask her basic questions like, "Does everything look okay?", or "Do you see the heartbeat?" and "What's the heart rate?" because she was too busy taking with the machine's company rep. to say a word to me throughout most of the ultrasound. I got to hear the heartbeat (for the first time) for like two seconds, then she turned if off because it seemed like she was just playing with her new toy and oblivious to the fact that maybe that was something I would like to enjoy, seeing as how I had never heard our baby's heartbeat before.
She walked out of the room without asking me if I had any questions, and I had to chase her down in the hallway to made sure I had them answered.
Am I'm being too sensitive? And..for the moms-to-be that have changed doctors, what was is that made you decide to change?