We are planning to announce our names before we reveal the sex of the baby on Christmas with our families. We have been set on our names for a while, but recently I had a revelation and want to tweak the boy's middle name we picked.
The girl's name is Christina Grace. Christina is my mother's first name. Grace has no family significance.
The boy's name is Everett Chance. Everett has no family significance. Chance is my BIL's first name (DH's brother).
I want to change the boy's name to Everett James (James after my grandfather and my uncle). DH obviously thinks the family significance should be split evenly, but he is not close with his family and it was a stretch to come up with someone to pass along the name of.
Additionally, Everett James has the adorable nickname of E.J. which I really like as an option. Otherwise, Rhett is our only good nickname choice and it's becoming more popular.
Part of the trouble is I do not get along with my BIL. He is a major jerk to me (makes fun of overweight women) and recently was really mean to my sister over something as trivial as Fantasy Football. His character generally is not something I want to pass along to my child. But he is really good with my SIL's son and our little cousins so I do think he would be a good uncle in some ways.
I of course mentioned all this to DH and he was swaying because he really likes the E.J. nickname. But he wants to find either a neutral non-family related name to replace it (Jeremy, Jacob, etc.) or choose a different family-related name that does not begin with a J. But he doesn't have anyone else in mind.
Am I horrible to push for Everett James or should I just accept that DH deserves family rights too and suck up Everett Chance?