Hi ladies! Let me first just say THANK YOU to all of you that post on here. This board has been a source of so much information and motivation and I appreciate it so much!
So here is the deal... I have a 3 1/2 year old little boy and DH and I are trying for baby #2. When I had DS I had an INCREDIBLE OB that I trusted and she was COMPLETELY on board with me doing a natural birth at the hospital. I was the most comfortable with this because I had a very hard pregnancy and DH wasn't nearly as involved or supportive as he is now. I felt kinda on my own throughout the entire thing because he was clueless. HAHA It was frustrating then but I'm over it and he really wants to be WAY more hands on and supportive this go around! Thank goodness. So when I had DS my water broke at home when DH was 45 minutes from home. He turned around and sped home and we rushed to the hospital with my contractions coming every minute and lasting about 2 minutes. I was having such a hard time breathing (later found out I had bronchitis) and I was trying my best to stay calm and get through them. When we got to the hospital I was dialated to a 6 and they wanted to monitor DS. I agreed to a few minutes of external monitoring. Well they couldn't find a heartbeat and freaked out on me. Me being ill equipped to handle this agreed to let them do an internal fetal monitor. BIG mistake. I was stuck on my back, couldn't move to get through contractions and laying on my back made it even harder for me to breathe. They hooked me up to oxygen and after 2 hours said that my oxygen levels were too low and I either had to cope with the contractions better or get an epi. Gee thanks. So very long story short, I ended up with an epi for a whopping 20 minutes. I had them turn it off the second I could breathe and I was able to feel my legs and birth.
So my question (sorry for the novel) is I'm wanting to do a natural home water birth this time so much! I do not want to be a in an environment that will push drugs and monitoring, etc. My DH and I want to take Bradley and Hypnobabies and he wants to support me through my birth this time. I was discussing this with my mom the other day thinking that she'd be my biggest cheerleader because she is a huge advocate to natural EVERYTHING but she literally told me "I don't think you can handle the pain. You should have seen you last time." I about died. I lost it and explained every single thing that made it so much more difficult for me to deal last time and after that she backed off and was supportive (who knows if that was for real). So now I'm doubting myself and really could use some encouragment as to how you ladies found the confidence to say I CAN DO THIS.
Thanks so much!