So my family has asked me if they can throw a shower for me, because our kids will be 4 1/2 years apart, plus this one is a girl.
Obviously I will keep it smaller than my first one, but I was wondering... would you invite the women from your H's side too, if no one from that side has mentioned doing something? Don't get me wrong, I'm definitely not expecting anyone to give me a shower by any means, I just am unsure what to do in the case of the IL's because I don't want them to feel "left out" or what not if they found out I had a shower and they weren't invited, nor do I want them to think I'm gift grabby if I put them on the list, or make them feel like they should or should have thrown something too. KWIM?
ETA the shower obviously is a ways away yet, but I've been asked to start making a list of who I would want to invite so we can get an idea of the size.