*Before I write this post, i would like to say that this is all my opinion, and not a black and white issue. Obviously the things i say DO NOT apply to all women; it is just my observation of a recent trend, and what i feel personally. *
Everyone knows the average age for marriage is rising, and that women are waiting longer and longer to have children. This is largely because of the fact that the majority of women are choosing to finish college and start their careers before marrying or starting a family. Along with this is the idea that all women should conform to this average age. I just finished my first semester of college, so i understand the importance of an education and career. And of course its fine to focus on these things first. But I have a problem with the fact that women who do not want to do those things first are looked down upon as stupid or not ambitious enough. i consider my self a feminist(please do not attach yourself to the negative connotation of that word), I'm all for female empowerment and constructing a stable life for ourselves. But I also want a family, and I don't want to wait until I'm 30 to start one. I'm sure there are a lot of other women who feel the same way. I want to get married and have children while I'm in my early twenties, but the norms today tell me that isn't a good idea. If f I choose to ignore these norms, and do what I want with my own life (go figure), I will have judgement cast over me, especially from my family, who will think I'm putting my education on a backburner. Why can't women get married while in college? Or have children while creating their career? Or better yet, have the freedom to choose when/if to marry and have children, without feeling pressure and condescendment from those with a different opinion?